Before getting a reading, there are some of the "silent rules" I should share with you. Not all readers adopt these rules or every single one - that is the "fun" of "silent rules", they aren't "written rules".

Confusing? Well, it is like a fraternity or sorority that has written rules and then a silent rule book of conduct ... the silent ones are not always followed by every single member cause they are flexible in adherence. You can feel free to ask though and most will tell you if they do or don't though these "silent rules" thoughts are not to be used in judgement of the reader's skills, since these more so are thoughts with how the reader judges how they will conduct their readings as far as boundaries or limits that they personally feel comfortable with in their mind and heart.

Under The Age Of 18 Clientele: Many won't read for a person under the age of 18 regardless if the person is willing to pay the fee or not. For one reason, many states and areas have a Fortune Telling Law on the books that prohibits this. Another reason being is that the person under that age generally are only seeking about love and that is an area still in development for people in this age range so not really predictable.

Let me explain that last comment a little bit - See, in the course of dating as a teen and into early adult years, this is an exploratory phase in life. Yes, you will develop intense emotions towards a person or be crushed feeling when a break-up happens or if Joe Blow/Suzie Que doesn't seem to notice you - but this is one phase (of many) in life you have to go through and work out on your own.

I am not saying this to be callous, but merely trying to be factual. See, a psychic could probably tell you if the relationship is good or bad or headed for Heartbreak Hotel .. but they cannot tell you on what you will walk away with learning from that experience. Only you can. It's a bummer and a drag in life - but it is one that you must go thru for with each break-up/heartache/and development of the emotions of love - it is atually working on bringing you that much closer to figuring out *what you really* want as far as an "ideal" in a future lifemate. Cards can't teach you the information you need to know to figure this out - only your own personally gone through experiences and thoughts nurtured by you over time can hold this "key" for you.

But if you want a third party listening ear, many a reader will offer to be that for you without a charge - they can recall their teen and dating years pretty darn good so may be able to relate to what you are feeling/thinking. They may even share some funny or not-so-funny tales of their youth trying times with you also.

2. If the person isn't present, no reading done on that person regardless of the relationship to you. Some readers adhere to this one stringently - no budging no matter how much you plead your case. Some will waver a bit if the situation regarding the person is of importance or possibly life threatening (i.e. missing child or a runaway). Yet a few will throw this rule out to the wind and read for anyone you ask them to read upon.

Explanation of why a reader may refuse to do a reading on a person not present is not to be rude or arrogant, but out of respect to you, the reader themself, and the person not physically present to consent. For one thing, it can be seen as an "invasion of privacy" - you may not like it if people were consulting other psychics and having a reading done on you, so why would you ask one to do the same on another person? Second reason is, out of respect to you and the reader, due to the fact the cards may possibly reveal something you didn't want to know or hear and the reader being the one caught in the middle to be the relayer of this morsel of information.

My point of view is simple on this: if you want to know if your mate is veiwing the relationship the same way as you do, then brew a pot of coffee and sit down and talk to them about these thoughts. They know the way they think better than a psychic would to be brutally honest.

3. Reading Upon Dead Relatives ... regardless of the reason you want to have this done, just to know if Auntie Myrtle is happy and at peace or where Uncle Billy hid his stock shares at that you can't seem to locate.

4. Asking For Names & Dates OR *cringe* Asking If You Should Break Up With So&So.

Some readers don't like to pass this type of information along for several reasons. Don't mistake good intentions for snottiness though on this regards ... read a few of the reasonings I supplied here before you think the reader is acting like a little psychic snot ...

Reason #1 - you are still in control of the future aspects even though you are consulting a psychic about the future. Remember you are asking them to tell you about probablities NOT facts ... and that is exactly what they will relay to you based upon the past and present aspects of time taken into consideration. If they "see" something pertinent to you, they will relay it to you - some may even describe locations, people, or whatever it is they think is important to relay, but may decline to give that person a name - leaving you to figure out who you know that fits that description. Others may say a name though too - it varies upon the reader's style.

The same thought is sometimes used in placing time frames - they will give you approximates though (i.e. "between 4 to 9 days..." or "within the next 6 to 8 weeks ..."). Again, don't confuse this with rudeness on the reader's part but rather thank them, they are giving you a time frame so you continue to strive towards that goal to make it possible instead of naming off a date and having you sit back and kick up the heels thinking it will come to your door on such&such date. Regardless of what you hear in a reading, you still have to put forth the effort to have it come forth - recall the reader is basing this probability on your past and present efforts, and so glimpsing upon your future efforts. If you sit back and wait for it, then you may be stalling it from happening as the reader said it would.

Reason #2: if the reader does go ahead and try to name people, say a town's name, or give you an exact date and time - and it doesn't pan out as they said on that date or time, the Mary person you were to wary of turned out to be a Megan, Margie, or something, and town you thought you might move to turned out to be not the town predicted - you as the consultant can say to someone else "Gee, he/she was so dead on about everything else - how could they screw that up so badly?" In other words, you will opt to forego the other accuracies - like you did move, or the event happend a week or two later, or that there was indeed a person gossiping about you - and you only choste to hone in only that the reader didn't get that one thing right.

Reason #3 - you already know if you feel like breaking up with So&So or if you need to talk things out with them to come to the full decision. The reader isn't playing matchmaker nor always willing to advise anyone on this type of matter. That is putting a lot of weight (unnecessarily) on the reader's shoulder when it actually belongs on yours. An exception to this rule may be if the reader sees the relationship puts you in danger or other type of risk to perhaps ask you to rethink why you are in the relationship. Again, they will not say "dump the dude ... " Or "keep that gal...", those are decisions that entirely rest on your shoulders.

To be honest, the reader doesn't want you to base your life upon their words. They are only giving you insight - not answers, and not what you should do.

4. "Is That ALL That You See??????... But I Asked About (insert subject matter thought about here) ..."

OK...tricky area here in thought. Suzie Q approaches Reader C for a Tarot reading. She is thinking intently upon her lack of love life feelings as she shuffles the cards. Reader C takes the cards and lays them out on the table in a simple Celtic Cross Spread.

"Hmmm... Ahhh..." Reader C muses as he looks over the cards on the table top. "I see you are coming due for a change in the work area, which will take up more of your time so get some rest now and don't regret this change when it happens for it will lead you to many opportunities in the future - in fact, I wouldn't be surprised to hear you come back to tell me that you will be moving to a different state in a couple of months."

Suzie Q purses her lips slightly and lets him continue. "Ah, here... see this card," Reader C smiles as he looks at her to see if she is looking to where his finger is pointing to, "this is an excellent card for you right now! A card of inner thought and reflection is coming your way in the next few days - very soon. You will be doing a bit of soul searching and "spring cleaning" inside yourself."

Suzie looks at the card sadly ... but still keeps her mouth closed, hoping he will be hinting at love soon. "Hmmm... I see you have a hard time with your budget at home - keep a closer eye on it, the money saved will come in handy in the next few months," he says as he continues to look at the future tensed cards, "I would toss spare change aside in a drawer as a second "nest egg" as well working on the budget," then grows silent.

"Anything else," she asks hesitantly ... wondering if the key to Mr. Right laid somewhere there in the spread but Reader C hadn't told her yet. "No, nothing else ... but the job area will be leading you to more and many happy opportunities .." he smiles as he picks up the cards and places them back on the deck.

Suzie Q sighs as she hands him the twenty for the reading then drives home. Telling herself she been gyped - she asked about love and got answers about money and work instead. Sheesh ...

Now let's backtrack here ... did she really get cheated? I mean, ok... Reader C talked about work, changes coming to pass and more hours involved. He also saw her spending habits and advised gently that maybe she should try to stick to her budget better as the money may be of use in a month or two to her. Now granted she was asking about love - but the cards were telling her that other matters in her life were of MORE importance to her AT THAT TIME of the reading.

No idea what Reader C was hinting at possibly happening to her as a result of the move, who knows - maybe he only saw many opportunities opening to her but not any specific ones he could pin point. Who is to say that Suzie Q had to go thru these other events BEFORE love was in the wings, waiting to come her way. Maybe she had to move to another location to get closer to her Mr. Right - or she may meet him thru work as a result of the long hours of working together - or maybe he will be behind her at a bank line as she deposits her paycheck and takes out only what is needed, foregoing the new dress that she really didn't need.

The reading may not be black and white in details of events - nor even tell you a thing about what you thinking or asking about. But sometimes a wealth of information can be uncovered all the same that may be more valuable to you at that time than you realize.

5. Over Consultation ... some readers draw a line on how often they read for a person. There are some people who try to see how many readings they can get - like they are collecting baseball cards or trying to start a need for a group like "Oracle Addicts Anonymous" ...

This is for your benefit - not the reader. I mean look at it this way - you are willing to pay and they turn you down telling you to wait a couple more weeks, who is financially benefitting here? You or them?

Many readers use the time frame of the last reading to base when you should return for another reading. If they say "within 6 to 8 weeks" on the last reading, then please be patient and wait that amount of time before consulting for another reading. You have to let time do it's stuff - and if you are running from reader to reader each week or each day, you are over consulting on the issues in your life and not paying attention to the information already given to you by the readers. So listen to the reader carefully during your reading. If you helped the probability to become an actuality ahead of the estimated time frame, you can try to consult the reader again if you prefer - and let them know that everything so far foretold did come to pass.

It may surprise you to see a reader pull out a little notebook and flip to a page - then sort thru the deck for a specific card before handing it over to you for the shuffle - the card they pulled was the last card they turned over in your other reading with them! This is one just one the many methods of keeping track of a reading that reader's may use. Some feel it makes sense to "continue" a reading from where the last one left off at ... it doesn't always matter if the last reading came into full realization for a reader to sometimes use the last reading's Final Outcome card as the reference point for the new reading.

Another reason to avoid over consulting is that after a while, you may become confused while trying to peice together what Reader A said in comparison to Reader B, C, D, and E. Thus, you are really essentially throwing your money and time away. Even if it is a series of freebie readings you are getting, this isn't to your benefit to see how many different readers you can search out online to read for you within a week to two week time period. You are not only wasting YOUR time - but you are also wasting the reader's talents and time.

Some people state they get all the readings they can to help them find out more things to help them base the other readings upon ... to that I say "hog wash". After a reading, if any questions remain, you get only one (yes I said only ONE) clarification reading. If that second reading sucked eggs in your opinion in accuracy then you still wait a few weeks before you get another one. Sorry, no matter how much you whine, beg, plead, or give me what you think are plausible excuses to get every kind of reading you can or for me to read on you 3 weeks after I already have, be prepared to also hear me say "No, sorry." To me, people who are taking up so much time and energy in getting readings are not then putting the time and energy in the areas of thoughts they are concerned about coming to terms with. *shrug*

© 1998 by Secretive aka Carol