Suicide........
what an ugly word
I've known people before that committed suicide, and I never could understand how they could be so heartless.
On Sunday, July 5th, 1998, my brother shot himself with a 12 guage. We are still reeling from this.
Look at his picture (far left)...he's a good looking man, isn't he? He is also well respected in his community, served on the school board, and taught Sunday School at Myrtle Springs Baptist Church in Hooks, TX.
After the initial anger (which will probably come again), I began to understand WHY he did it.... and in it's own strange, perverted way, it was the ultimate act of love for his family.
You see, as an insurance agent, Brett was well insured.....but he WASN'T depressed. He figured he was worth more to his family dead than alive....and his death would help them out financially.
I am only beginning to experience being the survivor of someone who committed suicide....the pain is horrendous at times... the "what ifs" eat away at you....the anger at the one who caused these tears.....and when I went online in search of various sites, I found FAR too many of them.....
"The person who completes suicide dies once....those left behind die A THOUSAND TIMES.....trying to relive those terrible moments and understand...WHY?????????" This statement is SOOO true...I've "relived" my brother's death...where I was, how I was told, the agony of that day....again and again and again. I've placed myself in his shoes, tried to think the thoughts he was thinking, the fear he had to have felt as he pulled the trigger, the tears I KNOW he was crying.....and the tears I cannot hold back.
PLEASE!!!!!!!! If you are thinking about suicide, STOP! It is NEVER the thing to do...not even if you are having financial problems and the life insurance will make your family financially secure.....
Links:
The first
Suicide page I visited
Survivors
of Suicide
Lollie's Suicide Prevention
Whisper's
1000 Deaths(a photo montage)
In
Loving Memory
Hero
by Mariah Carey
There's a hero If you look inside your heart
You don't have to be afraid
Of what you are
There's an answer
If you reach into your soul
And the sorrow that you know
Will melt away
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
It's a long road
When you face the world alone
No one reaches out a hand
For you to hold
You can find love
If you search within yourself
And the emptiness you felt
Will disappear
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
Lord knows
Dreams are hard to follow
But don't let anyone
Tear them away
Hold on
There will be tomorrow
In time You'll find the way
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you