Myths about closed adoptions

Here are some very prevalent myths about closed adoption.

Myths about birthmothers

• You will have other children to take the place of the one lost to adoption.
• You will go on with your life as if nothing ever happened.
• You "gave away" your baby because you didn't care.
• You never thought of your child once it was relinquished.
• You do not want your right to privacy infringed by a searching adoptee.

Myths about adoptees

• You don't think about your birth parents.
• You should be grateful to be adopted by a "stable, two-parent family".
• You would have ended up living in poverty and/or being abused if not adopted.
• If you loved your adoptive parents more, you would not be inclined to search.
• You don't care about your heritage.

Myths about adoptive parents

• You wouldn't have adopted if you could have a "baby of your own".
• If you loved your adopted child enough, they wouldn't want to search.
• You are the adoptee's "only parents".
• Your family made by adoption will be like any other family.
• Your ethnic heritage is the only one that is important to your child.

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