As we stand and talk, we often feel fright at expressing our thoughts. To
offer reason for this phenomenon would be simple. Supporting need to speak
well would be equally easy. However I want to talk about the need to be
herd, and understood.
Understanding is often more visual than vocal. Body language, and facial
expressions send most of the message. Detractors also work against us in
sending true understanding to our listeners. For example, hands in the
pocket, scratching, and fidgeting when trying to communicate.
Have you shared a problem with someone? Was the experience satisfying,
rewarding, or pleasant? If they listed well you may have felt these
emotions. If you communicate well then, they may have also shared your
emotions. Communication is best summarized as sharing. When you and your
listener are part of the same experience, then understanding occurs.Your
voice has much to do with messaging and communication.
Enthusiasm is readily under stood and improves listener attention. Monotone
can put your listeners into a trance. Speaking then is a skill to be
practiced, and more importantly an activity to enjoy! Toastmasters is a
break in the day that lets us practice having fun communicating with
others.
I must admit I find speaking fun and a challenge. The comments and
constructive criticism help me to be humble and accept my short comings.
The comments give me hope to do better. I commit my time before you to try
to entertain, and communicate my pleasure at being here.
To conclude understanding is sharing. Communication stems from
participation. Validation flows from listening with empathy.