Beware the person who feels he has nothing to lose in a fight. He is the most dangerous. He may be prepared to do anything in order to get his way.
It does make sense.
As an objective onlooker, you may not feel that the other side has nothing to lose. You may feel that it does not make sense for them to have the potential for, or possibility of making big mistakes.
However, they may perceive their cause as an all-win or all-lose situation. In that case, their perception of the truth may be more important than reality.
Their perception of the situation is likely to determine the way that they will fight. People who feel that they have nothing to lose are often desperate. They may not care about the results of their actions.
It is difficult to reason with these people.
A person can be convinced or persuaded that he has nothing to lose. His sources may be outsiders whom they respect, people in social groups that they follow, or peer groups. People in this position are difficult to counsel because their mind is made up. They may not be interested in what others have to say.
A person who feels that he has nothing to lose is often in control of the situation, because there is little that you can say that they will listen to or care about. The best way to deal with somebody who feels that he has nothing to lose may be to prove that their feelings are incorrect, and that they do indeed have something to lose.
However, it can be difficult to work with somebody who is in a desperate position. The game may be over before it begins.
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