WELCOME TO HOLLAND

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability--to try to help people who have not shared the unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this...

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip--to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans, The Colliseum, The Michelangelo David, The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It is all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"HOLLAND!?! you say, 'What do you mean Holland? I signed up for Italy. I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy.'"

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland, and there you must stay. The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disqusting place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place."

So you must go out and buy new guidebooks. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met. It is just a different place. It is slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around, and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills, Holland has tulips, Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy, and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say, Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned. And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, go away, because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss.

But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about Holland."


The above is a dedication to all parents of any children who have special needs. As one of those parents I can identify with this in many ways. We all expected many things when our children were born and many of us were not prepared for what a trip to Holland might have brought with it. It is important to remember that God never gives us anything that we cannot handle if we have His help. Please take the time to enjoy and count all of the blessings that Holland has brought your way. My prayers are with you and yours.

Love, Lynda


  



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