The following is a full text of Earl Spencer's funeral
address:
I stand before you today the representative of a family in
grief, in a country in mourning, before a world in shock.
We are all united, not only in our desire to pay our
respects to Diana, but rather in our need to do so.
For such was her extraordinary appeal that the tens of
millions of people taking part in this service all over the
world via television and radio who never actually met her,
feel that they, too, lost someone close to them in the early
hours of Sunday morning. It is a more remarkable tribute
to Diana than I can ever hope to offer her today.
Diana was the very essence of compassion,of duty, of
style, of beauty. All over the world she was a symbol of
selfless humanity. All over the world, a standard bearer for
the rights of the truly downtrodden, a very British girl who
transcended nationality. Someone with a natural nobility
who was classless and who proved in the last year that she
needed no royal title to continue to generate her particular
brand of magic.
Today is our chance to say thank you for the way you
brightened our lives, even though God granted you but half a
life. We will all feel cheated always that you were taken
from us so young, and yet we must learn to be grateful that
you came along at all. Only now that you are gone do we
truly appreciate what we are now without and we want
you to know that life without you is very, very difficult. We
have all despaired at our loss over the past week and only
the strength of the message you gave us through your years
of giving has afforded us the strength to move forward.
There is a temptation to rush to canonise your memory;
there is no need to do so. You stand tall enough as a
human being of unique qualities not to need to be seen as a
saint. Indeed, to sanctify your memory would be to miss
out on the very core of your being, your wonderfully
mischievous sense of humour with a laugh that bent you
double. Your joy for life, transmitted wherever you took
your smile, and the sparkle in those unforgettable eyes.
Your boundless energy, which you could barely contain.
But your greatest gift was your intuition and it was a gift
you used wisely. This is what underpinned all your other
wonderful attributes; and if we look to analyse what it was
about you that had such a wide appeal, we find it in your
instinctive feel for what was really important in all our lives.
Without your God-given sensitivity we would be immersed
in greater ignorance at the anguish of Aids and HIV
sufferers, the plight of the homeless, the isolation of lepers,
the random destruction of landmines. Diana explained to
me once that it was her innermost feelings of suffering that
made it possible for her to connect with her constituency of
the rejected. And here we come to another truth about her.
For all the status, the glamour, the applause, Diana
remained throughout a very insecure person at heart,
almost childlike in her desire to do good for others so she
could release herself from deep feelings of unworthiness of
which her eating disorders were merely a symptom. The
world sensed this part of her characterand cherished her
for her vulnerability whilst admiring her for her honesty.
Last time I saw Diana was on July 1, her birthday, in
London, when typically she was not taking time to
celebrate her special day with friends but was guest of
honour at a special charity fundraising evening. She
sparkled, of course, but I would rather cherish the days I
spent with her in March when she came to visit me and my
children in our home in South Africa. I am proud of the fact
apart from when she was on display meeting President
Mandela we managed to contrive to stop the ever-present
paparazzi from getting a single picture of her; that meant a
lot to her.
These were days I will always treasure. It was as if we had
been transported back to our childhood when we spent
such an enormous amount of time together; the two
youngest in the family. Fundamentally, she had not changed
at all from the big sister who mothered me as a baby,
fought with me at school and endured those long train
journeys between our parents' homes with me at
weekends. It is a tribute to her level-headedness and
strength that despite the most bizarre-like life imaginable
after her childhood, she remained intact, true to herself.
There is no doubt that she was looking for a new direction
in her life at this time. She talked endlessly of getting away
from England, mainly because of the treatment that she
received at the hands of the newspapers. I don't think she
ever understood why her genuinely good intentions were
sneered at by the media, why there appeared to be a
permanent quest on their behalf to bring her down. It is
baffling. My own and only explanation is that
genuine goodness is threatening to those at the site of the
moral spectrum. It is a point to remember that of all the
ironies about Diana, perhaps the greatest was this; a girl
given the name of the ancient goddess of hunting was, in the
end, the most hunted person of the modern age.
She would want us today to pledge ourselves to protecting
her beloved boys, William and Harry, from a similar fate; and
I do this here, Diana, on your behalf. We will not allow them
to suffer the anguish that used regularly to drive you to
tearful despair. And beyond that, on behalf of your
mother and sisters, I pledge that we, your blood family, will
do all we can to continue the imaginative way in which you
were steering these two exceptional young men so that
their souls are not simply immersed by duty and tradition
but can sing openly as you planned.
We fully respect the heritage into which they have both
been born and will always respect and encourage them in
their royal role; but we, like you, recognise the need for
them to experience as many different aspects of life as
possible to arm them spiritually and emotionally for the
years ahead. I know you would have expected nothing less
from us. William and Harry, we all cared desperately for
you today. We are all chewed up with the sadness at the
loss of a woman who was not even our mother. How great
your suffering is, we cannot even imagine.
I would like to end by thanking God for the small mercies
he has shown us at this dreadful time. For taking Diana at
her most beautiful and radiant and when she had joy in her
private life. Above all we give thanks for the life of a
woman I am so proud to be able to call my sister: the
unique, the complex, the extraordinary and irreplaceable
Diana, whose beauty, both internal and external, will never
be extinguished from our minds.
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