The Crying Child
Wishing she could understand the reasons why,
She cried and pleaded, "Daddy don't hit me!"
To reach out would have only caused it to be even more bad,
Even when the blows from the leather belt brought extreme agony,
As she sits in the coldness of the dark room,
The crying child, the abused child, loves him even still,
(c)1989 Renee Womble
Cries of pain and cries of loneliness.
Curled into a pain wracked ball,
She shivered and shaked, as she leaned against the cold, damp wall.
The reasons, behind the hate in his eyes.
She couldn't understand the anger,
Nor could she understand the danger.
"I promise to be better, I promise to be good!"
The rage in his eyes glowed like a madness within for all to see,
And he only laughed and continued as she knew he would.
Still she loved him with all the innocence in her heart that she had.
She was sure she was the cause of his rage and anger,
She was sure she was the cause of being in constant danger.
She cried out that she loved him for all to hear and see.
"Daddy I love you, I promise not to be bad!"
The cries of pain from this child are always so very sad.
She hopes that she can get him to realize that soon.
That even though he beats her in anger and rage that is totally insane,
Her love for her Daddy will always be the same.
With a love that is given of her own free will.
She still cries and wonders all the while,
If she will always remain this hurt and crying child....
Child abuse, neglect, etc. are a common and horrible problem in our society today. The worst part of it is that it travels from parent to child in a ring that never ends....at least not unless that child gets counseling or is strong enough to not abuse when they become adults. Too many times we wish not to see abuse happening, and if you turn your back on a hurting child you are worse than the person abusing them.
There are many forms of abuse.....mental, physical, and emotional. None is worse than the other since they all cause scars either inside or outside.
This page is not to condemn, but to appeal to those that either are abusing or know it is happening. The circle has got to stop and someone needs to stand up and voice it....that's me...I'm the loud mouth to give you the head on version of what is wrong and why its wrong.
I do not believe in spoiling the child and I know that there is a thin line between punishment and abuse, but if you don't know what that thin line is then you are probably an abuser. Children learn what they live and if they are living in hell they will grow up to create that hell for their own children. Its often not because they choose to, it's from not being able to control the anger and rage. When you lash out at your child with violence they cower in fear, but their love never dies. You can crush their self-worth, but you can't take away their strength or soul from them. Unless you have been abused you have no idea just how much strength it takes to live that life. We have children to carry on the family name, to give us love, to make us happy, to bring sunshine into our life.....but then there are those that try to crush that love and happiness and it rips my heart out to know its happening even as I type this.
Its harder to control the anger than it is to live it, but if you are strong and know what contribution you are making for a better society by breaking the chain of violence, then it's worth every second. Getting counseling if you cannot stop is not a weakness. You must have tremendous strength to commit to therapy and for that credit is due. My wish here is to enlighten not condemn, but if you read this and choose not to see what damage is being done to your children then you are not strong and you have no love in your heart to make them suffer in such a vile manner.
If you tell yourself that you only hit them when they really deserve it and its only a handprint then you should try to remember what that little handprint did to you as a child. Do you recall the embaressment now? Abuse comes in many forms, no you may not be killing your child or locking them in the basement, but the damage is caused in other ways. Please know your own strength and commit to helping our children grow up in a safe environment, so they don't cause pain to their own children later in life.
**Please do not put your children's pictures on the internet if you intend to add you site to generator's. You have no idea how dangerous that could be.
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