The phone rang at 6:20 am and my son took the call. It was from my very close friend. I was not at home that Sunday morning. By the time I got the sms message on my mobile, it was almost 7am. When I returned the call, I was shocked to hear from my friend that his wife just died one and the half hours ago. He tried to appear normal but I could feel  the sadness in his voice. I offered my condolence and promised him that my family members and me will be at his wife funeral service all the way ....

After breaking  the sad news to my wife,she felt very bad about it because she did not have the opportunity to visit her during her serious illness. (However,she had visited my friend's wife a few times last year). I told my wife that it is fated that way and I hugged her. In my heart, I was grateful that I still have my wife since September,1977 ( almost 25 years already) and yet my very close friend lost his wife after being married to her  for just only about five years.

Honestly, I am not qualified to give any comments or reviews on this subject matter- about losing a love one. Some twenty years ago I lost my father and I cried during his burial. Now, I am scared of losing my old and sick mother. But as all of know the day will come when all of us will lose our parents.

As I grow older, I began to realise that my wife is my very close friend. I can't imagine the feeling of losing her. However, most of us seems to take our wives for granted. There are a lot of "things" we took for granted because they are there for us or with us.Once we lost any one of them, only then we know what we are missing or their real value to us. Some ten years ago, I was hospitalised and confined to bed for only  three days. I was even  jealous looking at the people walking because I could not walk. That was only for three days! How about people who donot have legs at all??

In about five years time, all my kids will either got married,work some place away from home or at college. And that leaves me and my wife alone at home.I pray that she would around until I die because I hate being alone and I don't like to sleep alone;-)

So my dear male friends, take good care of your wives.You will need them most when you are old and sick....

In the case of my elderly neighbour, it is the other way around. He is taking care of his sick wife single-handedly because none of his children would. Both of them are in their seventies. Everyday, he has to dress up his wife because she could not do it on her own and he could only leave the house when she sleeps. As far as I know men are not good at this kind of work and have less patience than ladies. He accepted the situation as fated but his worry was that who would take care of his wife in the event if he dies earlier?

I don't have the answer for that...