Gabby and Xena's relatinship.......

(Husker) writes:
> Hello everyone,
> I know, I know, everyone is tired about hearing about are they or aren't they,
> but I thought that I could put my two cents worth in:) I don't believe they are,
> (but I wouldn't mind:) ), and here's why: I think that they have a love that
> goes beyond that which anyone really knows. They are connected spiritually, and
> being connected spiritually is tough, but if it happens it makes for a really
> special relationship. Gabrielle's and Xena's relationship defines love, it is
> what everyone wants in this world, but it eludes many of us. Lucy has been right
> in saying that we can't put labels on the two characters because we really don't
> have a label for what they are. They compliment each other so well, that we know
> that there is no one out there for either one of them, except each other. I hope
> the writer's don't try and break that up, because we all know that they are
> destined to be together one way or another:) Well, that's it. So what does
> everyone think??:)
>
> Husker

I agree with you. I think when you inject sex into their relationship, it cheapens it. It's not about sex. I read a recent interview by ROC, and that's exactly what she said. It's not about sex. She called it a "marriage of friendship." That's one reason I don't like a lot of the "lesbian" fan fiction that's out there - the graphic stuff is just all about sex, and all they do is roll around in the hay (to use a euphemism). I think they have too much respect for each other to just reduce it to a physical act. Now, I'm not saying that they aren't physically attracted to each other. I think they are, but it just goes a lot deeper than "wham, bam, thank-you, ma'am." Just my opinion, so I hope no one gets their panties in a wad. (Is that an expression used only in the South?)

Even though I am married, my best friend is one of the most important people in my life. We've been through everything together, and I love her just about as much as anybody in this world. I think I'd be willing to die for her, if I had to, and I think she'd do the same for me. We live 400 miles apart now, but when we get together, it's like we've never been apart.

If you want to read that interview I'm talking about, let me know, and I'll find it on the web and direct you to the website.

Thanks,
L.L.

Gabby and Xena's relatinship.......

In many respects I agree with your assessment, I also believe the spiritual
bond between them is the important thing here. There are other variables
involved in their friendship that many average friendships do not have in
common with Xena and Gab's. For one, they have relied on one another in
life and death situations more often than most friendships would experience, and
that adds a kind of bond found among people in combat situations or survival
situations. They are together on a constant basis, which I believe would
encourage the kind of bonding sisters or siblings come to know. Most friendships
share a great deal of time together, but not day after day, 24 hours a day.
There are bound to be any number of good days and bad days, disagreements,
silliniess, moods and times that touch on virtually every emotion. You get to know
a person inside out, as well as you would know your own sister.
At the same time, I do not believe their love is as elusive in the real
world as some people might. Best friends and friendships that endure
do have their challenges and adventures, and their growing pains. Among
women, few of those friendships tend to survive in the real world due
to lack of communication, generally the thing that causes problems in
almost any relationship. Many women tend to avoid expressing feelings, fears,
discomforts, or opening the door to possible confrontational situations.
When there is misunderstanding or problems, many women prefer to distance
themselves for a period of time, or end the relationship, rather than
communicate openly and honestly toward resloving issues.

Xena and Gab have learned from early on in their relationship and in the
show, to communicate, to hash things out, and keep the relationship
growing.

LaRin