A group of cops wives can change a life style. 
For so many years the job has controlled the lives and family routine. 
But with us, this group, it can change.  How???

Learn about the job.
Listen to them & their stories, even when it upsets us.
Look at the plusses of the job.
Plan ahead for dates and family time
Stay busy with our  interests so we are  interesting to them.
Plan your attack. (It's  not really an attack but  it got your attention.)
When you have a  need to discuss a negative, pick the right time.
Not on the phone while they are calling from work.
Not when they walk through the front door.
Not when the kids  are yelling and  playing.
Not before or during  your intimate time together. 
Ask if about such in such  time this evening would be a  good  time to talk? 
While all is quiet. Believe me they are  far more  receptive.
We are their balance, we are their future, we are their true love & when we are ourselves busy with fun interests this is what takes them from their job to normal. 
We can be fun even with kids climbing all over us all day, be creative.
This applies to them also, but it has to start somewhere so why not with us.
God gave us the ability to handle many things at once and to be the balance in our marriages. 
Submitted by: Brenda S. 
PosseCa.