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Ok, I'm 14. And I have a boyfriend, I'll call him James. He's 13. Well, the problem is, I like another guy who's 14 also. I'll call him Jim. Anyway. I like Jim a lot! But he likes one of my friends whos only 11 and she's not allowed to date. She's going out with Jim anyway. He doesn't know she's not allowed to date. Her parents would kill her if they found out she was with Jim. Well, I want to be with Jim, not James. I just want to be friends with James. WHAT SHOULD I DO??????
HopelesslyInLoveWithTheWrongGuy

The very first thing you should do is dump James. Tell him you want to be friends, but the girlfriend/boyfriend relationship is not working. Then you should talk to the girl who is going out with Jim. You need to tell her how you feel about him and ask her why she's doing this behind her parents' backs. You also need to tell Jim how you feel about him. Maybe he actually likes you but doesn't want to tell you because he doesn't know how you feel about him. Just take your time and don't try to hurt anyone's feelings! Good luck!

Ok, I am 15, I have a boyfriend. I really like him, but the only way I think he will stay with me is if we have sex :(. I'm not ready yet, but I definitely don't want to lose him. Should I just go for it?
Confused

If you do not want to have sex with this guy, then you shouldn't. You should never do anything like that just to make a guy happy. Sex is a very serious thing and you need to save it for after marriage when you are sure you love your husband. Losing a guy is nothing compared with getting pregnant, contracting STDs, or being left by a the guy even after you have sex. If he's going to dump you just because you won't have sex with him, he's not even worth it in the first place. Please be careful and make good decisions.

I have multiple problems. #1 I hate meat and eating it but my parent's MAKE me eat it! Yuck. #2 I have no friends but a couple which are in high school and I'm only in middle school. #3 I'm horrible at everything. #4 I always look down on myself but am trying to look up but can't. PLEASE HELP ME.
Needs Serious Help

Okay, I think you just need to find some self esteem. If your parents want you to eat meat, then you'll probably have to keep eating it. Maybe you can make a compromise just to eat a little bit of it every night. I bet you do have friends, but you just don't know it. Sometimes you've got to take the first step, and invite someone over or something. If you stop relying on your high school friends, then maybe you'll find that you have more middle school friends. If you think you're bad at everything, you have to keep trying until you find something you're really good at. I'm not too good at anything, but I try a lot of different things that I am sort of good at. So, you've got to find the good qualities in yourself, and overlook the bad. Make a list or something if you have to!

I have guy friends, but I like this boy. I don't know how to tell him that I want to be more than friends! What should I do?

Well, I think the best thing to do is tell the guy that you really like him and ask how he feels about you. The worse thing that could happen is that he'll say he just wants to stay friends. You might feel a little awkward around him if he says that, but it will eventually go away. And if he says he likes you to, then everything is good. You'll be glad that you told the truth because it was something just waiting to happen. Good luck!

Ok, I REALLY like guys... But I'm really shy. And the guys just won't talk to me. I have NO guy friends, and I really want some. HELP ME! Please!!!!!
Sincerly,
Shy-One

Since school is starting soon or may have already started, you'll have a lot more chances to meet guys. Talk to some of them in your classes about homework, the teacher, or other people you both know. You make the first move! Or go with one of your girl friends when she is talking to a guy, and join in the conversation. Tell your friends about it and I'm sure they'll help you out. Try joining a co-ed club, sport, or activity where you know you'll meet some guys! Last of all, remember to have fun! Enjoy being young while you still are.


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