"I may not have gone where I intended to go,
but I think I have ended up where I intended to be."
--Douglas Adams--
If you are here because I told you about this page, then we have spoken and you probably
already know most of what you will find here. However, if you are new to the scene...
and seeking more knowledge, I hope I am able to help.
The internet has a variety of web sites on bdsm. Many sites are designed with
professional Dommes, dressed in tight fitting leather outfits, showing a lot of leg and cleavage,
and carrying various toys of discipline. They provide a fantasy image that many search out.
Unfortunately, or fortunately, depending on your particular perspective, there
are those of Us who do not need the outfit to fulfill the role. It is an everyday part of our lives.
We are from various walks of life. Some of us are married, have children, maybe even grandchildren.
Being 'harsh, cruel, demanding.......even B*****' is not a necessary part of our personality. We
could be your next door neighbour, your child's teacher, perhaps your minister's wife.
In essence, we are real people.
Being a Dominant woman does not mean I have an inner resentment for
members of the opposite sex. I am not out to demean, humiliate or casterate. In fact
my compassion and concern for men tends to be the driving force behind my need
to assume control. There is nothing more touching to me, than a man in need of 'support,
or understanding'. In my 'fantasies and dreams' when I was younger, I was always the
one rescuing 'Captain Kirk', or Sean Connery, or other equally powerful figures. I do
not view it as a maternal instinct, per se, but a strong nurturing tendancy.
The need to care, guide, keep safe is part of my Dominance and I tend to be
fiercely protective to those I care for. Men are faced with so many stresses in the
world today. Few can even identify all that challenges them. What better service to
provide than an oasis at the end of the day, a place where the cares of the world are
left outside,where they offer themselves to the control and power of a loving Woman?
Not surprisingly those of us in the lifestyle seem to also have an attraction for
bdsm. Perhaps it is the actual act of physically taking control, the vulnerability
of our partners, the enormous amount of trust they show being bound before us.
Whatever the reason, the 'kinky' sex is a definite plus.
In later pages you will find the philosophies and guidelines of the Community.
So I will not touch on them here. Suffice it to say, I believe the D/s relationship is nothing
short of perfect. It encompasses deep trust, respect, compassion, communication,
devotion, and affection/love. The acts of bdsm that are often included enhance the
romance and sexual excitement of each pairing. Consider for a moment, what other
situation.....or relationship....is so focused on the pleasure of the other person that
literally hours can be spent in foreplay alone? In bdsm 'climaxing' is not the ultimate goal...
it is the intensity of the pleasure...the heightening of the arousal. For many in the
lifestyle or lovestyle.....s/m has come to mean 'sexual magic'.
Before moving on....I just would like to add, I have met many people in the past
several years who are deeply commited to this Community. The qualities I have seen
and admired, the strict codes of conduct they live by, the genuine acceptance of
those seeking to learn,have touched me in ways I could never hope to adequately
express. I am just thankful and proud to be among them.
Letters to the Novice
Library
Chambers
If you are here because I told you about this page, then we have spoken and you probably
already know most of what you will find here. However, if you are new to the scene...
and seeking more knowledge, I hope I am able to help.
The internet has a variety of web sites on bdsm. Many sites are designed with
professional Dommes, dressed in tight fitting leather outfits, showing a lot of leg and cleavage,
and carrying various toys of discipline. They provide a fantasy image that many search out.
Unfortunately, or fortunately, depending on your particular perspective, there
are those of Us who do not need the outfit to fulfill the role. It is an everyday part of our lives.
We are from various walks of life. Some of us are married, have children, maybe even grandchildren.
Being 'harsh, cruel, demanding.......even B*****' is not a necessary part of our personality. We
could be your next door neighbour, your child's teacher, perhaps your minister's wife.
In essence, we are real people.
Being a Dominant woman does not mean I have an inner resentment for
members of the opposite sex. I am not out to demean, humiliate or casterate. In fact
my compassion and concern for men tends to be the driving force behind my need
to assume control. There is nothing more touching to me, than a man in need of 'support,
or understanding'. In my 'fantasies and dreams' when I was younger, I was always the
one rescuing 'Captain Kirk', or Sean Connery, or other equally powerful figures. I do
not view it as a maternal instinct, per se, but a strong nurturing tendancy.
The need to care, guide, keep safe is part of my Dominance and I tend to be
fiercely protective to those I care for. Men are faced with so many stresses in the
world today. Few can even identify all that challenges them. What better service to
provide than an oasis at the end of the day, a place where the cares of the world are
left outside,where they offer themselves to the control and power of a loving Woman?
Not surprisingly those of us in the lifestyle seem to also have an attraction for
bdsm. Perhaps it is the actual act of physically taking control, the vulnerability
of our partners, the enormous amount of trust they show being bound before us.
Whatever the reason, the 'kinky' sex is a definite plus.
In later pages you will find the philosophies and guidelines of the Community.
So I will not touch on them here. Suffice it to say, I believe the D/s relationship is nothing
short of perfect. It encompasses deep trust, respect, compassion, communication,
devotion, and affection/love. The acts of bdsm that are often included enhance the
romance and sexual excitement of each pairing. Consider for a moment, what other
situation.....or relationship....is so focused on the pleasure of the other person that
literally hours can be spent in foreplay alone? In bdsm 'climaxing' is not the ultimate goal...
it is the intensity of the pleasure...the heightening of the arousal. For many in the
lifestyle or lovestyle.....s/m has come to mean 'sexual magic'.
Before moving on....I just would like to add, I have met many people in the past
several years who are deeply commited to this Community. The qualities I have seen
and admired, the strict codes of conduct they live by, the genuine acceptance of
those seeking to learn,have touched me in ways I could never hope to adequately
express. I am just thankful and proud to be among them.
Letters to the Novice
