YOU ARE ENTITLED TO HAVE
FEELINGS!
In helping the survivor, you might experience many
feelings. Recovery can be a long, slow process that may
take years. You may fear that the survivor will never be the
same again. You may feel guilt for what happened
to your loved one.
However, it is important to realize that your
feelings are natural. You have to try to
understand that the perpetrator
committed the crime - not you. You also should make
sure to help YOURSELF. Talk with people you can trust!
You too need support of others!
Do not take personally the hatred the
survivor might feel towards your gender,
if her/his perpetrator had the same gender as you do.
Talk to a counselor, educate yourself about rape
and rape prevention, and do not expect
to be able to make the survivor feel
better all of the time. Do not blame either survivor
or yourself - the only person who is at fault is
the person who committed the crime.
Rape Crisis Hotline: 384-4444
Counseling Center: 333-3704
Rape Crisis Services: 384-4480
Mental Health Center of
Champaign County: 398-8080
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