This page is all about adoption and how it has affected me
. . . the third ghost with whom I dance.

"Thus, the task is not so much to see what no one yet has seen, but to think what no one yet has thought about that which everybody sees."

-- Schopenhauer

Adoption means that someone has lost a child.
Adoption means a child has lost a mother, father, or both -- and many other family members.
Adoption is about loss, exclusion, and pain.
Adoption separates families.
Stop taking babies from their mothers.

It is my hope that this page will help put an end to the needless separation of children from their parents, to the suffering of mothers by the loss of their children to adoption, to the practice of raising children with the lie that adopters are their parents.

No mother should be asked to give her child away.

On these pages you can read about my adoption experience, which began in 1968. Until 1997, I thought the same about adoption as everyone else. I believed it to be a fairy tale, a sacred cow, everything . . . Everything that everyone else believes about adoption I did too. I've been learning so much in the past few years. Adoption is not at all what I thought it was. It's not good. Adoption hurts people. It has to stop.

I've tried all the current mailing lists for bmoms, and I wasn't really satisfied with the level of support I received. I've heard of a new mailing list for people dissatisfied with adoption. An anti-adoption mailing list. EMAIL me, and I'll send you the invitation I received.

Follow this ribbon link to learn about Birthmother's Day. For me, that day is like a memorial day for moms who've lost their children to adoption and society to acknowledge and help grieve the pain that adoption has been for us -- not to honor or celebrate the loss of our children. Also, I don't believe that adopters become the mothers and fathers of our children. I personally don't feel linked to the people who adopted my daughter. If anything, adoption seems to have become a barrier between us. I hope that Birthmother's Day can lead to a time when no mother is excluded and separated from her child.

BIRTHMOTHER DAY


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