- Just relax and it will happen, you are trying too hard.
- Get drunk.
- Adopt and then you'll get pregnant.
- You can always adopt a baby.
- Don't think about it so much.
- Go away on vacation.
- It's God's will and wasn't meant to be.
This page is for people who are childless (not by choice) and the people close to them.
One thing that is hard for me, or any childless person is dealing with questions/comments from "well-meaning" friends, family & co-workers.
Statements you think are helpful but are really hurtful.
Don't Say...
I have heard each one of these and each time it was like a knife in my heart.
First, I can't relax we have been trying so hard, and long and it's all I think about. Especially when I have
been taking my temperature everyday for the last 14 mos. Most people who say this have children by accident and it
only adds to the hurt.
Second, I realize there are hundreds of children waiting to be adopted, but, I need to have a child of my own just like YOU wanted too!
Third, who are you to presume that you know God's will? I would hope that He is listening and somehow will answer our prayers. This is the one comment that really bothers me.
What do I need to hear from someone? Hope to hear?
I am praying for you and hope for the best.
You two would make wonderful parents.
This must be very hard for you, and I am
here for you if you need to talk.
I never realized the emotional ride we had signed on for. My whole life has been worrying and trying not to get pregnant.
As a young girl in high school the big fear was getting pregnant. All the school lectures were geared toward
preventing pregnancy. No one ever says...
"Be prepared you may be infertile and getting pregnant,
will be the most stressful event of your life"!
Visit my journal which describes, the tests and drugs I have received. Detailed are HSG, PCT, vasovasotomy, ICSI, Gonal-F, premarin, provera, pergonal, lupron and the list keeps getting longer.
