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MARRIAGE FOUNDATION
I believe that a relationship should be built upon trust and mutual respect. I'm sorry if I once betrayed that trust and have lost your respect for me. I'm not trying to excuse my actions because they were the wrong response to what was going on inside of me. I apologize to you and to all those I hurt by what I have done. I know that, once trust has been broken, it is difficult to trust that person again. Trust is what I ask of you now.
Please forgive me of my past transgressions and let's try to start over. I refuse to try to make up for what I did, because I know that is a losing battle. I only ask for your forgiveness and your best effort to forget what I have done, just as God forgives and forgets our sins. I am determined to never let myself sink to that level again.
I pray that Christ would give me the strength to better cope with my feelings and the words to express what I feel to you. I desire to have an open communication with you and to no longer look for another avenue, outside of our marriage, in which to vent my frustrations. I ask that you be responsive whenever I bring a concern to you, without trying to find fault, but to be understanding and supportive at all times. Although I will do my best to prevent this situation from occuring again, I know that it will always be a weakness on my part. I believe that, with your love and support, I will always be able to overcome the temptation and that facing those times together, our relationship will become ever stronger as the years pass. My desire is to live out my days with you.
While I can't promise that the desire to express my feminine side will ever leave, with your help, I will attempt to express it in ways that do not make you so uncomfortable. I ask that you recognize the traits in me that could be considered feminine and those traits are what created an attraction between us that propelled us into this union. Not only are two people attracted by their simularities, but also by their differences. Those differences serve to make the other feel complete. They act like opposite poles of a magnet to draw them together. Unfortunately, oftentimes, we never reveal to our mates what attracted us to them. That is a bad mistake. Revealing those differences is a key element in the process of making our spouse feel worthy to be loved.
We tell ourselves so many lies that we begin to believe we may never find one who wants us. It is this fear that makes us marry in haste and repent later. I want to express what I like about you and ask you to do the same.(At this point, fill in what you like about your spouse) If we have nothing to name, after we have given it our full consideration, then our marriage is not on a firm foundation. Jesus said that a house built on the sand will crumble when the storms hit. Let's do our best to firm up our foundation before it is too late and it slides into the sea of hatred and unforgiveness. I think we had something, worth getting married for, once. Let's search for it and allow it to be the healing balm of our relationship. I love you and I think you love me.
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