Ok, Now that I've got your attention, let's get on with the nuts and bolts of sex. Or maybe I should say the plumbing and wiring. Because that's really what sex is all about. And believe it or not, it all starts in the head.

So just in case you need a refresher course in some of the basics (take that to mean you didn't do so great in biology) just click on the little brain below, and trust me, you'll learn more than you ever did in any Sex Ed. class---or maybe even the first year of medical school!

I hope you all took the time to read it cuz there's a lot of information there.
And now that we all know how things work...it may be good idea to mention something really imortant when the time comes to put that little gizmo to work.

Use what's below...for safety's sake.


Now For Something A Bit More Challenging...or
The Hard Part

COMING OUT...
OH YIPES!!

Coming Out ain't easy. There's no right time when everyone should do it, it's definitely an individual choice. When the time comes you'll know it. So there's no hurry...and don't let anybody force you into doing something you're not ready for. Trust me, I'm telling you this from personal experience.

My own coming out was pretty unexpected, I hadn't really planned to have it happen the way it did--but as it turned out, it worked for the best.

Probably like you, I had been wanting to tell my parents about me for some time, but I just didn't know quite how to say it. Sure, there were things about me that weren't quite like other boys: I rarely was seen in a girl's company, dating was all but absent, and I never talked about girls very much. And you know how that goes! Like when aunts and uncles come over for dinner and say something like..."Josh, so tell me, how many girlfriends do you have? They must be breaking the door down to see you!" [Yeah, right]

But you've gotta do something, so you smile stupidly ( hoping they'll think you're too modest to talk about your masculine prowess), shrug your shoulders and mutter, "Oh, I've got plenty of 'em." [realizing to yourself that the number zero is plenty enough for you.]

Been there? Done that? Yeah, I guess you know how it feels. Pretty rotten. You're kinda caught between a rock and a hard place. You don't want to come right out and lie, but at the same time you feel guilty about not telling the truth. It's a weird and uncomfortable feeling. So what do you do? Well, I don't have all the answers, all I can tell you is what I did...I waited. And waited. And waited some more. I can't tell you how many times I came just one breath short of blurtng out: "Hey mom, dad...I got something to tell you. I'M GAY!" But something held me back (even when the words were on the tip of my tongue, because something just wasn't right.) And what wasn't right? Timing! The timing would have been all wrong and my need to clear my conscience and declare my sexual orientation most probably would have met with disastrous results.

So be patient. As I said earlier you WILL know when the time is right, so just be kewl about it.

Listed below are some true stories about how other gay guys came out, how they handled their situation. I'm not saying one is better than the other. And maybe none of their "techniques" will work for you. But you never know, maybe it will. Besides, the more information you have, the better your decision-making will be.

As I find more true coming-out stories I'll list them here, so don't forget to check back often.



  1. Coming Home A story about a guy who thought nobody would ever understand him.
  2. Faith Found-Friend Lost How one college student dealt with his worst fear.
  3. Tips Some do's and don'ts for coming out.


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