 We place much focus on the
Proverbs 31 Woman: The married Woman. Let's take a look at the prelude to the
married Proverbs 31 Woman. Be you young or old, single, widowed or divorced may
this article help you to discern and see yourself as…… THE IRRESISTIBLE WOMAN REJOICE IN GOD'S DESIGN First of all, an irresistible
woman is a woman of spiritual principle. She's not a 90s woman; she's a godly
woman. She understands God's design for her life as a woman and rejoices in it.
She doesn't march to the beat of the world's drum, but delights in studying the
Word of God and allows it to guide her daily. She revels in her femininity and
won't compromise her standards for anyone. She doesn't need everyone's approval
because she has God's approval. She knows that "when a man's ways are
pleasing to the Lord, he makes even his enemies live at peace with him"
(Prov. 16:7). This may fly in the face of
all you've worked to accomplish; but if you've been struggling and have come to
the woeful conclusion that being a woman is difficult, perhaps you've
overstepped the boundaries of God's blueprint for your life. Perhaps now is a
good time to get back to basics and reclaim the parts of yourself that you've
lost. APPRECIATE YOURSELF What's behind that Mona Lisa
smile? An irresistible woman has taken art appreciation. She knows she is
"fearfully and wonderfully made" (Ps. 139:14). She doesn't struggle
with her self-image. She appreciates the fact that she is a unique work of art,
crafted to be admired by just the right discerning eye. She studies what God
says about her and concludes that she is "altogether lovely" (Song
5:16'). Perhaps a visit to an art
museum would assist you in coming to the same conclusion about yourself. As you
gaze at painting after painting of women with bodies that greatly resemble
yours, you might be tempted to buy a frame for yourself. KNOW WHAT LOVE LOOKS LIKE You won't find an
irresistible woman plucking petals from daisies trying to decipher, "he
loves me, he loves me not." She knows what love looks like. God's love is
her model, and she won't settle for less. "Something is better
than nothing" doesn't add up in her book. She assesses the character of
the man before her like a discerning shopper. What is he made of? How does he
fit in with the rest of a life that's been designed by God? Discounted purchases are a
no-no in her book. Character flaws should be assessed realistically. Some
imperfections come out in the wash. Some don't. She counts the cost of her
relationships and measures them against her spiritual budget. Is this affair of
the heart too expensive? What is it costing her spiritually, emotionally and
physically? Will this add to her life and well-being or leave her empty? If you're struggling in the
area of good role models for love, look to Jesus, who gave Himself
sacrificially for us. Consider Boaz, who sought to provide for Ruth, or Joseph,
Jesus' earthly father, who devised to protect Mary's life and reputation. These
are models for the type of treatment you should expect from the man God puts in
your life. BLESS THE LIVES OF OTHERS Why is the life of an
irresistible woman so fascinating? Because she is a woman of purpose. She uses
the natural gifts God has given her to bless others. In turn, her life is
filled with blessings and fulfillment. The happier you are, the more attractive
you'll be to others. Everyone wants to be near someone who is generating energy
and being productive. Plus, this jump starts the law of sowing and reaping. The
more you sow into the lives of others, the more you can expect to harvest. The most lovable people on
the planet love those who are available to be loved in their world right now
They don't rely on the love of one special person to complete them or bring
them joy; they find their delight in pouring out to others. Is your biological clock
ticking? Silence it by adopting someone's children for the weekend or mentoring
a young person. Not oniy will you have the appreciation of thankful parents,
you'll find your own heart bursting with fulfillment. Remember, what you make
happen for others, God will make happen for you. GUARDING YOUR HEART Call her careful, call her
discerning. An irresistible woman knows it is wise to "above all else,
guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Prov. 4:23). She
protects her jewels, those things that are precious in God's sight. She knows
what you should know: Your emotions, your body and your spirit belong to God. She doesn't depend on others
to nurture and care for her valuables. She places her heart in God's hands and
leaves it there, out of the reach of those who are undeserving. She presents
her body to God as a living sacrifice, as an act of obedience and worship. She
doesn't sell herself short or cast her pearls before swine (those who are
unable to recognize a gem's true worth). She keeps her love and her body for
one who is able to recognize that she is a priceless treasure. Remember that Jesus died for
you, and you have been purchased with a price. You are not a bargain-basement
special. Set the precedent now for respect and appreciation. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE FOUND An irresistible woman
wouldn't be caught pursuing a man. She knows that the man "who finds a
wife finds what is good" (Prov. 18:22). She allows herself to be found. I
suggest you follow her lead. Consider a flower. It doesn't
yell, "Hey! Come pick me!" Yet we are drawn to its quiet beauty And
it smells so good! You can't resist the urge to pick it. And so it is with a
woman who understands her beauty and her worth. So sit back, relax and bask
in the Son's love until the right admirer comes along. Forsake the
I'm-waiting-to-rescued mentality and adopt this attitude: Is this the man I
should bless with my love? Is this the man God has chosen for me to partner
with to the glory of His kingdom? This will take awhile for you to figure out;
so remember, dating is not for mating. Dating is for collecting data. So while
you're sitting pretty and smelling good, do what every irresistible woman does
- take plenty of notes. CELEBRATE THE DIFFERENCES Last, but not. least, an
irresistible woman knows flow to celebrate herself, her life and her God. Learn
to cherish the little things and see God's hand in them throughout the day
Become more aware of how God goes out of His way to touch you in a special way
daily - in the favor someone did for you, in the smile of a passing stranger,
in the compliment of a friend. No moment should ever be taken for granted,
after all, it will never be repeated again. Celebrate the differences
between your-self and others. Seek what you can learn from every encounter and
then be the wiser for it. Celebrate men for the unique
people God created them to be. The differences between the sexes are not
negative but are beneficial to our own sense of balance and completion. Learn
to appreciate the unique gifts that men and others around you bring to the
table. Appreciate those differences and make room for them to enhance your
world. Walk in grace knowing that
God's love covers you. Let His love fill you up. Every irresistible woman knows
that "he who is full loathes honey but to the hungry even what is bitter
tastes sweet" (Prov. 27:7). SEEK YOUR VALIDATION FROM
CHRIST As long as we're unfulfilled
in our relationship with Christ, we will find ourselves needy grasping to make
someone, anyone, fill the empty holes inside our hearts. But the truth of the
matter is, the hole inside our hearts is not a person-sized space; it is a
purpose-sized void. As we strive to become all
that God has purposed us to be and learn to embrace His love for us, we find the
need for outward validation dwindling. Every irresistible woman knows her true
source of joy lies within. Therefore she is not easily moved by conventional
pickup lines. Is she picky? Are her standards too high? Call it what you will,
but to those around her, she is simply irresistible; and you can be too. Written by:
Michelle McKinney Hammond who is a freelance writer, producer, singer and
speaker. She runs her own company, McKinney Creates, and lives in Chicago.
Secrets of an Irresistible Woman by Michelle McKinney Hammond can be purchased
at your Christian Book Store.
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