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| i have this friend who got into a horrible fight with her boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. he wrote this mean email to her the next day and said "fuck you" and that he didnt' want to see her anymore. she responded with "fine" throughout the day, we messaged one another, me consoling, her angry and sad. i asked her if she wanted to get back together with him, and she said no. i agreed that she didnt' have a very healthy relationship with him, that she was being disrespected. i went to see her after work and she said that the relationship wasn't worth it and whenever she brought up his name, her eyes would water. when i talked to her the following week, she sounded much better. she and the boyfriend got back together. *blank stare* she talked to him and they reconcilled their differences. then she told me that she felt bad for telling me about their fight, which i didn't understand. why do people like to hide behind the truth of their relationships? when i saw her last, she seemed quiet and subdued. like she was watching very carefully what would come out her mouth. i touched the subject of her boyfriend, what they were planning to do over the weekend, and after saying that nothing was planned, she recoiled and changed the subject. i didn't want to push so i didn't mention the boyfriend's name again. now i feel like there's a barrier between us. i'm afraid to ask her about the boyfriend, and from the looks of things, i think she feels like she's afraid to talk about her boyfriend. and that makes me sad because i don't understand why that happened. i'm not in the relationship. if she wants to be with him, more power to her. we're different and that's ok. if she is ok with him being the guy he is, then who am i to interfere? is it bad that i expressed that she didnt' have a healthy relationship with him when she first told me about the fight? was it wrong of me to tell her that, to agree with her? should i have told her to give him another chance, to give him the benefit of the doubt even tho that wasn't how i really felt? what are friends "suppose" to do in these circumstances? it's like that episode of sex and the city, when carrie got back together with BIG. when she first announced it, her friends didnt' know what to say. and that's how i feel. and when they told her how they felt, she got madat them. i dont' want my friend to be mad at me, but i hate that there is a touchy subject between us. that we both have to watch what we say to each other now. but from past experiences, i've learned that there at things you can and cannot say to certain people. that truth isnt' always the best choice with some people, even tho they ask for your honest opinions. bah. how frustrating. -------- my coworker was at the loading dock the other day, getting ready to fill the truck. there was a huge piece of cardboard where they were loading, so he ran over and tried to kick the cardboard away. not tried. accomplished in kicking the cardboard away, but not only did he kick the cardboard, but also a huge piece of poo UNDER the cardboard. it looked like fresh human feces. and it got all over his shoe. and his office area STANK. all day. have a wonderful weekend eveyone! |
| friday 04 april |