May 10, 2002
i told some of my cousins that i wrote a bit on my dilehma of choosing bridesmaids yesterday, and they asked, 'are you sure that you want to be sharing that kind of information? what if those people read it?'  honestly, i had considered that, but then i rationalized that that was exactly why i put the little warning at my homepage.  the reason i wanted to start this site was that i wanted to be able to share what kind of little things that i am going through with this process of wedding planning, and i think that choosing bridesmaids play roles in wedding planning.  in this instance, i didnt' put anyone's names down, but if someday i do, and you get offended, you should really just stay away from this site.  i'm speaking my mind and if you have a problem with it, i'm not going to apologize for expressing how i feel.  this is my JOURNAL.

ok, well today i'm in a bad mood, maybe you can already tell?  i woke up late and even tho there's no one here in the office to reprimand me, i felt bad.  i had these nice dreams of jello, ice cream, and chocolate but there was a nagging in my dream that time was running out.  i woke up groggily and looked at my clock.  it was past 8!  dammit.  i showered, dressed, got in the car and remembered that i was out of gas, so on top of being late, i had to get gas on the way to work.  geez, then there was traffic, as usual, from silver avenue to the bridge.  luckily i have alice's morning show to give me a couple of chuckles, but then as i listen, they announce who got kicked off of survivor last night!  *grrr*  parkin recorded it for me but i haven't watched it yet.  so i finally get to work and park, but there's a huge freight truck in my way, so i decide to walk under it to get across to the entrance of my building.  as i bend over, my cell phone falls out of my pocket and right before it hits the hard cement floor, my foot kicks it a good 6 feet away from me.   i hear it bumpily scape it's way across the ROCKY CEMENT floor, and as i reach for it, i hear laughter from the truck driver way to the left of me.  i dont' know if he was laughing at me, but i gave him a dirty look anyways.  i pick up my phone and it's thrashed with scapes on every side and corner.  of course it had to fall out of my pocket screen down against the cememt.  my phone is blue too, so you can see and feel the battle it's been through.  i'm so angry at myself right now. DAMMIT!!!  **deep breath in....  and out**

on thursday nights, i have dinner with my cousin jana and her daughter jazlynn.  her husband jeff plays basketball those nights, and i go over there after work and the 3 of us have dinner together.  anyways, while we were having dinner and talked about the wedding, i asked jana to be our wedding coodinator.  i see jana as this fountain of knowledge about weddings.  she's already been very helpful with suggestions, but i wanted to give her this title not to stress her out in any way, but i thought it'd be very appropriate since she'd been helping me so much already.  plus she might enjoy it while she's not working. (she'll be on maternity leave in the next couple of months)  i would also feel less apprehensive about asking her for advice or help.  i'm not even sure what a wedding coordinator's job consists of except from what i've seen in j.lo's movie. but if i know jana, she will help me find vendors and really great bargains around the bay area that i would have no clue of getting to.  i know that she will be very honest about things and make our wedding day run very smoothly.  thankfully she said yes, and we are very appreciative.  *big smile*

parkin and i have been speculating on whether to have american style invitations or traditional chinese invites.  i want to go chinese all the way, but thinking back to wedding invites that my parents get in the mail leave me with a sense of apprehension about chinese invites.  granted my brother and selina had chinese invites and they were very nice, but i still wasn't sure if that was the way to go.  i started looking through some magazines and saw some very nice american style ones that made fine impressions in my mind.  i shared these thoughts with jana and she sat up abruptly and went into the kitchen.  she came back and handed me something.  'look at this one'  i opened the envelope and was happily surprised with a very pretty and unique chinese wedding invitation!  see what i mean about the all knowingness?  *smug smile* 
back to homepage, please