Friday, August 16
	i feel like it's going to be a busy day ahead of me.  last night was tiring.  i left work a bit early and head down to irving street to get a trim, hehe.  then i went to parkin's house, made a couple of cards then we head out to foster city's abc for rehearsal dinner.  parkin found out on monday that he was going to chaffeur all of the groomsmen over to the bride's house early saturday morning.  the bride and groom didnt' ask me to do anything, so i thought i'd just help parkin load and unload the gifts to the house after the church ceremony.  last night at dinner, my aunt handed me a list of names.  she told me that i would be pinning the family members with flowers at the church.  i was happy to, i didnt' mind one bit, but i wish that i was asked to do it, and not expected to.  yup, back to the topic of expectations. first off, when my cousin asked parkin to drive them in the morning, it was more like, here's what you are going to do.  what choice did parkin have but to say yes?  it was already 5 days before the wedding, and it's not that parkin minded helping out, but he would have liked some notice.  but because parkin is my fiance, my cousin already expected that this wouldn't be a problem.  not that it is of course.  later that night on monday after my cousin gave parkin the schedule, my mom asked me if i was attending the rehearsal dinner.  my cousin didnt' ask me, so i said no.  later we find that we are attending, that my cousin expressed to my brother that we already knew about it, when in fact we didn't.  it was a weird thing, this whole situation, but we ended up attending last night's rehearsal dinner only because they had extra seatings.  we weren't invited thru the evite that was sent out 2-3 weeks ago.  we were sit-ins.  haha.  dinner was good tho, and we had a good time last night nonetheless. i understand that being family gives us certain obligations when an big event is planned, but instead of explaining to us what needs to be done,  there was a huge lack of communication.  i guess that's what weddings do to you tho!  i'm sure my cousin is just stressing like crazy. being a part of these weddings this past year has taught me A LOT on how i want things done when our day comes rolling around.  i hope to have good communication with our bridal party and let them know what things need to be done and by who.  i want to make sure i know everything is taken care of and know who is doing what, and that they know exactly what they are doing. i need structure dammit.  i know that the day will be a daze for me, and i won't be able to keep track of everything, but i know that i'll comminicate with my girls and they'll help the day go smooof. and so that brings me to my wedding update! after months of debating, parkin and i have FINALLY decided on who we wanted in our bridal party.  we've asked, and they have all accepted!  all of whom said yes i'd be honored.... but why?  haha.  our party is as follows:                              maid of honor, cousin:  dana                                             best man, parkin's brother:  park                bridesmatron, sister in law:  selina                                  groomsman, friend and frat bro:  vince                bridesmaid, friend:  ivy                                                        groomsman, friend and frat bro: jason                flower girl:  ashlyn my niece josephine hasn't decided whether or not to be a flower girl yet.  her parents are afraid that she won't be able to be walk down the aisle with ashlyn because ashlyn is so young.  *shake head*  i donggg knowwww....  i thought it would be harder for ashlyn.  we'll have to see how things are next year, what kind of emotional state the girls will be in.  we may end up not have any flower girls! it's going to be a funny lineup of a range of different heights, i think, but we'll see.  actually, it's just going to be a bit odd because our friend jason is HELLLLLLA tall.  coming in at 6'2 while vince is about 5'5, park is about 5'7 and parkin is 5'10.  dude, jason is so tall that he makes parkin look tiny, that's y he's standing last in line.  hehe.  luckily ivy's not a short girl. parkin and i have also decided on favors.  we ordered some samples, so if they are as what we have hope, we will order a bulk of them.  yes, i know that it's pretty damn early to be getting them, but they won't go bad.  plus they are on sale right now, and will hike up in price in october.  we don't want to risk them not going back on sale next year. i STILL have yet to go dress shopping, but i haven't had time!  this weekend is the wedding, next weekend is river rafting in sac, and the following weekend is my cousin's baby girl's red egg and ginger party!  i know, i know, time is running out.  *sigh*  i promise to make myself go to david's bridal or something by the end of the month.  i'm so bad.  girls dream of this, going to try on dresses and such.  for me, it's a drag.  i need to leave work early again, (at least i'm going to try to) go home, trim my dad's beard, dye my hair red, go to parkin's house, make spam musabi, then head over to my cousin's house for dinner.  long day ahead...  but it's gonna be fun!
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