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Gay Kyoto - Gay Osaka
Let me be completely honest. Japanese gay culture is not easy to become a part of. It took me many years before a found a 'place' there. Like many aspects of Japanese culture, if you're not Japanese, you will always be an outsider. That being said, however, there is lots to enjoy in Japan, and this page is your mini-guide to making the most of your stay, particularly in the Kansai area.
are quite important to Japanese gay men. If you visit a gay bar,
you will likely be asked what your 'type' is. Type is sen in
Japanese, so a 'chubby-chaser' would be known as debu-sen.
These are the main 'types':
If you are a Westerner (and particularly if you are Caucasian) you should be aware that you are a 'gaikokujin' or 'gaijin'--a foreigner. Of course, everyone who is not Japanese is a 'gaijin', but the ones of us who stand out are most readily placed in this category. Some Japanese boys are self-proclaimed gaisen, which is the Japanese equivalent of 'potato queen'--Asian boys who like Westerners. On the other hand, some Japanese have absolutely no interest in foreigners, so you may be snubbed for that very reason. One possible explanation for this love/hate relationship may stem from the fact that foreigners are rumoured to be very well-endowed. Hmmm. Let it be said here that while many Japanese boys proclaim to be 'small', this is certainly NOT always the case (just so you know).
You should not let this potential bias deter you. There are lots of kind Japanese men who, even if they are not gaisen, are pleased to chat with a foreigner. Take a chance, take your time, and have fun!
Survival Gay Japanese
Below is some Japanese vocabulary and English equivalents. Some of these words would have come in very handy if I had learnt them much much sooner...
Meeting Japanese Men
As I mentioned above, getting involved in the Japanese gay scene takes a bit of effort. Here are some of my suggestions for meeting guys in Japan: