SELFISHNESS


	When we lived a long life we had been
across so many examples. We had seen the 
good , the bad and always prepare for the
worse. 
 	However what this idiotic is about
is the selfishness of same parents that could
think about anything, but never that themselves
are selfish; and may be the fact of being parents
is enough not to make an intelligent analyze
of what is happening.
	I had seen many examples during my
lifetime, but recently this couple talking to
me said: - We don't understand what had
been wrong with our child. We did everything
we could to rise him the best way we know
how. Gave him everything he wants, made
sure that he always had the best and he don't
had to envy what the others have.
	Never had been traumatized, because
we made sure he never have problems that
could do that.
	Now he got problems, is in trouble with 
the law and with drugs, all because his friends.
	I felt sorry for this folks whom did
the best they know-how to make their child
happy; on the moment I didn't have the
courage to speak my mind about that, because
 I know it would-be very difficult to any parent
to reconcile with what I want to say: -
	I had like to tell them that they might
had been selfish the way they grow him-up.
they felt good when they gave him everything
and see him happy, but if they thought more
about his future, could have let him struggle
a bit more.
	We know it is very difficult to let that
happens when the resources are available,
however it  don't had prepared him better
for the road ahead.
	I still believe that they continue to be
selfish when they blame his friends for what
happen to him; it may bring them some
comfort but I know that their friends parents
would blame their son for what happen to
their children.
I'm sorry that I put my five-cents in and
may not be able to bring my thoughts
across, but I to felt better not to shy on
this matter

                                             
                                 Ferruja

2/23/2005