L O V E
According to Dr. T. Miethe in his The Compact Dictionary of Doctrinal Words,
there are four Greek words which are all translated “love” in the English
language:
“Eros” embraces all aspects of sexual desire or passion; however, it is never
used in the New Testament.
“Stergo” is an instinctive natural affection or
protectiveness that is inherent in one’s nature, such as: parents have for
children, a father providing for the family, or a mother caring for sick
members. However, this word is never used in the New Testament.
“Phileo” is a tender affection, a liking, and fondness,
such as in friendships. This term while used a few times in the Bible is never
used in a command to people to have toward God.
“Agapae” is an attitude of seeking the other person’s
best welfare in accordance with God’s value system and truths, and follows
through with the corresponding actions that that attitude prompts. It is not an
emotion or feeling necessarily.
Mk. 12:28-31 What is the great and foremost commandment?
Do
you love the LORD with all your heart (seek God’s best with full sincerity
of will/choice, to do so as an act of your will)?
If so, how?
Do
you love the LORD with all your soul (with intensity/fervency of feeling
toward/for Him)? If so, how?
Do
you love the LORD with all your mind (thoughtfully,
with understanding of intellect seeking God’s best welfare)?
If so, how?
Do
you love the LORD with all your strength (seeking His best with all your
energy or power of being)? If so, how?
Are
you loving God with your whole being or with only part of your being, and why?
In
what specific ways do you express this kind of love to God?
How
should we love our neighbor?
How
much do you love yourself, and in what ways do you show each day that you love
yourself?
Who
is our neighbor – Lk. 10:29-36?
In
what specific ways do you love people as much as you do yourself?
Lk.
Are
you doing this? If so, in what specific ways?
Lk. 7:44-47 How
did the woman show her love to Jesus?
How
do you show your love to Jesus and God the Father, and why those ways?
What
seems to be the relationship between forgiveness and love?
How
much (what amount) do you think you have been forgiven of your sins?
How
much do you love Jesus, and how is it evidenced?
Jn.
And how did Christ love them (e.g.,
Is
this how you are loving your fellow Christians (i.e., sacrificially)?
What
will people know by this? How?
Do
people know that you are a disciple/follower/imitator of Christ, and how?
Jn.
As
you observe your life (i.e., your obedience to God’s commands), to what
degree does it reflect how much you love God?
Do
your actions back up your words, “that you love God”, and in what ways?
Jn.
Do
you love anyone to this degree, and why?
Matt.
Can
you honestly say that you do? How
did you determine your answer?
If
your parents did not want you to read your Bible, pray, evangelize, go to a
biblically-accurate Bible study group, be trained or equipped to serve God, or
be a missionary, what would you do, and why?
Should our love for Christ be
greater than for our family and even ourselves (Lk.
Rom. 5:5 God’s love has been
poured out within our hearts through whom?
Who has God’s Spirit (8:9; Gal. 4:6)?
Do you? How
do you know?
Gal.
How would this be done or evidenced?
How
important are our motives for the things we do (1 Cor. 13:3;
Is
this your motive when serving others? What
other motives do you often have when serving others?
Gal.
Therefore, Who should we
allow to be in control of our lives if we want love to be produced through our
lives?
Are you doing this? If so, how?
Rom.
Do
you believe this is true of you when you are in the midst of hard or trying
situations or difficult circumstances, and why?
Rom. 12:9 What should love be without?
To say you love God
or people and then do evil or sin against them is hypocrisy. In what way – or
when – will our love for God or others be genuine – Psa. 97:10; 1 Jn.
Do you hate sin/abhor
evil, or have you grown immune to sin and tolerate it not only in other
people’s lives, but even in your own, and why?
Rom.
How
can you specifically go about being devoted to (i.e., having a family-like,
tender/kindly affection toward) other Christians?
Is
this the attitude you have toward your fellow Christians, and why?
What do we fulfill (accomplish the intent of) when we love people?
How much do you owe to your fellow Christians,
and why?
What doesn’t love do to a neighbor?
Do you wrong people that you say you love, and why?
1 Cor. 13:4-7 Describe what love is.
Is
this a description of the kind of love that you have when you say that you love
someone?
1 Cor.
Will you be accursed, and why?
1 Cor.
Is
this true of you? If
not, when isn’t it?
What
can you do to make this verse true in your life (e.g., Gal.
Eph.
When you correct someone or are explaining something to someone that you have a difference of opinion with, do you communicate with a motive of love (i.e., seeking their best rather than to put them down or simply win an argument)?
How would you be able to communicate truth in love?
Phil. 1:9, 10 For what does Paul pray
for these Christians?
Why
is it important that our love be knowledgeable and
discerning (based on the truths of the
Bible, what’s best from God’s perspective)?
How
can we have a knowledgeable love?
What
do you plan on doing as a result of knowing this truth, and how soon?
Col. 3:12-14 What
is love?
Are
you trying to preserve the unity among the Christians, and why?
How
do you go about doing this, specifically?
1 Thes.
Is
the quality (seeking your fellow Christians best welfare in more areas of
expression, like: spiritually, physically, materially, emotionally,
intellectually, financially) and quantity (greater frequency of
expression) of your love for Christians and for all people growing?
If so, in what specific ways, and how often?
1 Tim.
Is
the way your love and life are exhibited a good example for others to follow?
If
not, what plans do you have to become such an example, and how soon?
2 Tim. 1:7 What has God given
Christians the spirit (or Spirit) of?
Is
God’s Spirit in control of your life so that He can produce these qualities in
and through you?
If
not, what area of your life is He not in control of?
How
do you plan to yield that area of your life to the control of God’s Spirit, and
when?
2 Tim. 4:7, 8 To whom will the Lord award
the crown of righteousness (i.e., the reward for doing right)?
Is
there any reason why you wouldn’t want Jesus to return today to take you up to
heaven?
Some Christians say that they want to get married first, have a family, travel, or do some fun things before Christ returns. Are you guilty of this misplacement of love’s priority, and why?
James
Does
acquiring a crown of life (a greater
quality of life in heaven, such as a higher position or closer relationship to
God) interest you?
Do
you persevere under trials or hard circumstances as an expression of your love
for the Lord, instead of giving up?
How
or why would this be an expression of love for Him?
Heb.
Are
you helping other Christians? If so, specifically, how?
Heb.
Do you take time to think
through or plan how you can stimulate/motivate Christians to love each other
and do good to each other, or are you an instigator in trying to get Christians
mad at, jealous of, or even fight with each other, and why?
1 Pet.
Is
your love for other Christians sincere, fervent (intense and earnest),
and genuine rather than phony, superficial/shallow, and hypocritical? How
did you determine your answer?
How
does a Christian acquire a sincere/genuine, fervent love for others?
1 Pet. 4:8 Why should we
fervently (intensely and earnestly)
continue in our love for one another?
[The word “covers” means “forgives,” not
“ignores” (Psa. 32:1; 85:2).].
Does
your fervent love for other Christians express and prompt forgiveness for their
sins, and why (2 Cor. 2:7, 11)?
1 Jn. 2:4-6 In
whom has the love of God been perfected (accomplished)?
Has
the love of/for God been perfected/accomplished/made a reality/exhibited in
your life? How can you
know?
1 Jn. 2:15-17 What
shouldn’t we love, and why?
[The “world” is all that floating mass of
thoughts, opinions, maxims, speculations, hopes, impulses, aims/goals,
aspirations, at any time current in the world … the spirit of the world of men
who are living alienated and apart from God” – Wuest’s Word Studies in the
Greek New Testament, “Romans,” p. 207.].
Are
you loving the world (i.e., the values, goals, priorities, and thinking of
non-Christians or those carnal/backslidden Christians who are living alienated
from God) or the things in the world: the lust of the flesh (e.g.,
drunkenness, gluttony, illicit sex or drugs), the lust of the eyes (e.g.,
greed or coveting/desiring the wrong things or people because they are not
God’s will), or the pride of life (e.g., arrogance/self-importance/egotism
derived from a person’s position, possessions, popularity, prestige,
appearance, skills/talents, intelligence, achievements, associations, etc),
and why?
If
you’re loving the world or the things in the world, what
do you plan on specifically doing to correct the situation?
1 Jn.
Are
you continually loving your brother (i.e., fellow Christian), and why?
If
not, how could you (Eph.
1 Jn.
Are you abiding/living in death (i.e., spiritual separation from God)?
[This spiritual separation can be permanent for
the non-Christian or temporary for the carnal/worldly/backslidden Christian.].
How
does a Christian get back into (spiritual) life, 1:9;
1 Jn. 3:16-18 How
should we love?
Are you loving others in deed (actions) and truth (actuality;
genuineness)?
Give
two recent examples of where you’ve done this.
[Often times people flippantly say that they
love someone, but it’s really only cheap, insincere words or the right thing to
say at the time to look good. Be truthful and show it by your actions.].
1 Jn.
If you know that God perfectly loves you, what should your attitude or perspective “not be” about doing God’s will for your life or any of His commandments?
Do you fear obeying any of God’s commands or fear doing His will for your life (i.e., evangelizing the spiritually lost, building up other Christians spiritually, and living a holy life, separated from sin unto God), and why?
1 Jn. 4:19-21 Who
cannot love God?
Why?
What
should the one who loves God do?
Is
this true of you?