| And she shalled be called woman. Gen. 2:23 - The word woman, means womb-man. We have a womb, men do not. We have a nurturing spirit, men do not. We are a helpmate to our husbands. Helpmate means we are equal in all ways, we just hold different qualities and men have their required qualities to make them our helpmates. But the world perverts this system that God designed. God loves a balance and when both husband and wife recognize each other as a child of the living God, then they have the basic element to have a balance in their marriage. God did not take woman out of the man's head, so he could lord over her God did not take her out of man's feet to be trampled on by him. But from his side to be EQUAL with him, from under his arm to PROTECTED by him and from his heart to be loved by him. Love is "to do". If you love someone you will do for that someone but not because it's demanded of you, but because you want to. And it's a two way street. |
| VIRTUOUS WOMAN - Proverbs chapter 31 describes the virtuous woman and as you read it you will see God even tells us what our job is concerning our husband's heart. verse 11: the heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. We are protectors of our husband's hearts. How many of wives destroy that trust? And how many husbands destroyed that trust? Being married is a committment on both sides. An equal balance. Let's look at the word "spoil" Spoil, what is meant by that word in verse 11? Spoil means: To damage or harm severely, ruin to impair the character of "someone" by excessive indullgence, When a wife strives to be a virtuous woman, then she won't "spoil" her husband. She will protect his heart. She will allow him to be the spiritual leader of the home. Again I'm talking about balance. The home is the wife's home too. She has the right to live in her home free of fear, free to make her own decisions, free to make her house a home for her husband and children. A husband who has allowed Jesus to be Lord of his life, will in turn allow his wife to be his helpmate, equal to him. |
| Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her....Proverbs 31:28 When I hear my husband give me praise for raising our children, I am blessed. First because I didn't do it alone, he was my helpmate and he doesn't seek the praise for it and neither do I. Whenever I'm asked for advice raising children and we have raised three who are truly blessings, I have one word for them, CONSISTENCY. meanings: (firmness, harmony, agreement, steadfast,, constant, uniformity, holding together) Ladies, we must be consistent with our children. And husbands must uphold this too. No, means no, not maybe. yes, means yes, not well I've changed my mind. But above all you must be willing to place your children in the hands of the "Father". God is the ultimate father, what better hands to place your trust. And we can't be giving our cares and worries concerning our children to the Lord, and reeling them back to us because we have doubt. Start doing this while your children are small for you need the practice before the teen years that can be very trying . |
| Ladies, I don't have all the answer all I know is what God says, He is the answer and His plan of order works, it's the best plan. I know there are some marriages where the wife has accepted Jesus but the husband hasn't yet. You can stand and let him see Jesus in you. If this husband is abusive, then get out from under that bondage, leave and pray for him, then give him time to prove that he has changed. Don't take his word as proof, some find words very easy to say, but have no idea about "Keeping their word". Corinthian 7:15 - But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother/sister is not under bondage in such cases; but God has called us to peace. Also, you deserve respect from your husband and your children. What a wonderful, lovely creature women are and designed to give love and be loved. God never meant for women's spirit to be crushed. Abuse crushes the spirit, God can and will restore with His Word. Please email me , I would love to hear from you. I will listen. God bless you all. May God's peace be with you always. Your sister in Christ, Gloria (Dancenshout) |
| RECOMMENDED READING: "Woman, thou Art Loosed!" by T.D. Jakes (Ladies please read this anointed book, it's life changing from the Word of God. |
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