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They have never accepted me. . .they have kicked my husband out of the family because they can't control him anymore.

While I do love my mother-in-law, being around her for long periods of time stresses me out!

My MIL has been difficult since day one.  She is very self-centered and as a result, has no idea that the things she says and does hurts us.  Her children assure me that she has always been like this.

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. . . she told my husband not to marry me.

My daughters and I don't exist for her.

She always expects us to be at her house for the holidays, even if it means missing the holidays with my family.

[My mother-in-law] loves her son and tries to keep in touch with him, but if I died it would be the happiest day of her life.

She starts like this, "I am going to tell you something you're not going to like to hear."  She never says things in front of her son or husband, which proves to me she knows she sounds horrible!

. . . they frequently isolate my husband from me at family gatherings to get him to agree to things without discussing them with me.

My mother-in-law is one of my best friends.

My mother-in-law's favorite daughter-in-law was never even married to her son.  She treats her like a daughter-in-law.  She manipulates her son; he has no backbone  when it comes to supporting me and we are now separated.

I have a great problem, not only with my mother-in-law, but also with my father-in-law and sister-in-law.  We live about 5 minutes from both, and they wanted to monopolize my husband's time.  I confronted my husband about it and suggested we set aside a family day on Saturdays.  They expressed disapproval of the situation and started treating me rudely.  I found out later that my mother-in-law is circulating a rumor (which is totally false) that I'm controlling my husband to move to another city.  We have no intention of moving and it greatly upsets me that she did this.  I can't stand her.  In fact, I can't stand any of them, and I tried really hard to fit in and get along with them.  I'm just sorry that I did.  Part of me wished I treated them rudely as they treated me . . .then maybe I wouldn't feel so bad.

Since the birth of our daughter my MIL has gone crazy.

My husband and I are going to see a counselor because of all the problems she causes with us.

I truly have the worst mother-in-law of all.

My mother-in-law is a very nice person, but she is so needy and intrusive.  If we cannot attend a family function we hear one of her "I never get to see you anymore" speeches.  She has taken it upon herself to stop by whenever she feels like it, sometimes calling, sometimes not.  I was raised to wait until you are invited to someone's home.  I like my privacy and that is one of the reasons we are not speaking.  I feel the need to hide in my home because she stops by whenever she feels like it!

My mother-in-law has been a constant source of aggravation.  She doesn't know the difference between Mother and Smother, and one of these days I will tell her!

We have moved 500 miles away and now my mother-in-law writes hateful letters to my husband and 8 year old son about me.  And yesterday we got the same kind of letter from one of my sisters-in-law. It was worded just like my mother-in-law would have written it.

I am adopted. . .my MIL tells people my parents shouldn't get to see our daughter as much as she does because they aren't her REAL grandparents, but she isn't willing to babysit while I work and they are.

My mother-in-law wants control over my husband and his daughter.  She makes me feel inadequate as a stepmother.

My mother-in-law is like another mother.  Sometimes I think she likes me more than my husband (haha).  She is one of my best friends and I am truly blessed.

After reading everyone elses mother-in-law complaints I realized that I am in trouble.  My mother-in-law fits everyone elses' bad mother-in-law characteristics combined!

She has been a spoiled rotten mother and wife for too long and doesn't know how to live with girls.  She has taken sides between daughters-in-law and yet blames us for destroying "her" family.

Since my husband doesn't want to take anyone's side he allows this poor relationship to continue.  It is destroying our marriage.  I don't understand why he doesn't stand up for me, his wife.  I am constantly under her attack.

God help her!  She is awful and trying to ruin our marriage.

My mother-in-law dislikes me because I am white and not Hispanic.  We feud over how to raise my bi-racial children.

What I appreciate most is how my mother-in-law treats me as one of her own, while at the same time not taking a mother's liberty to criticize  or make comments.

I really feel all alone when I get upset about this.  But I will deal with this in my own way.  It is hard because she is a sweet and loving person, she just nags way too much for me.  That is one reason why I NEVER want to move anywhere close to her.

It is unimaginable the scope of the problems my mother-in-law has attempted to create.  She has a vexed spirit and since the birth of my child has attempted to take over my role as mother.  My business has been spread in the place of worship where I attend and attitudes from officials in this church have festered due to her confidential side dealings with them.  Most of all, people seem to believe her twisted diatribes.

My mother-in-law expects me to go to all of their family events.  She doesn't understand that we not only have events from her family but events from my family as well. When I tell her that I can only go to one of the events she tries to manipulate my husband and I into going to her event.  I have blocked her from my e-mail and refuse to coordinate anything with her again.

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