| Internet Relationships For some an Internet relationship can lead to a full-blown affair with the two suitors meeting for real. On the other hand, some are just happy to have an online relationship. Friendship that go no further because there will not exist any real risk that they will ever meet in person so the two can be as open and uninhibited as they both choose. There is more safety in this situation than can be found if the parties should meet. Real meetings can lead to an apprehension, inhibitions and fear of actual contact. The safety of the Internet is fundamental in obtaining excitement and pleasure with no risk of a confrontation within the realms of reality. What one expresses or does on the net is different to what can be experienced in reality, where one can feel the touch of the other. This reality situation can embarrass and inhibit either one or the other. I give as a first example Mathew an American and Doreen a lady from the Philippians republic, they began a long relationship following a chance meeting on the Internet. They used the video conference facilities so were able to see each other’s body language and facial expressions. Neither after a while showed any inhibitions and their relationship blossomed. In time they set a time and date to meet and in due course Matthew flew out to the Philippians to meet Doreen. There was apprehension on both sides even though they had fallen in love on the net. There did exist inhibitions and fear when they met for real. What had been normal on the Video was not to be realized when they confronted each other in the flesh. In consequence the relationship did not cement either of their feelings. Matthew returned to America unfulfilled in his desire to be with Doreen. On the other hand Cedric from The UK met Rosa on the net with video facilities and the love that grew on the net was realized when they met for real. The case of a few un named persons were shocked to find the suitor that they had fallen in love with on the net were using them and other suitors to choose from. In subsequence when the suitor arrived in the country of the would be lover, they found that they were just one of many that the suitor was seeking to have as their partner or spouse. Many have met online with only a photograph to show who they are. In consequence when the two met in person, the photo was of them either much younger or a different person altogether. Many have been duped into sending money to would be love partners. They find that once the money or gifts have been received they no long have contact with this person. Safety first is always important on the net. Never send Money or gifts, never give your home address, do not supply the other party with your phone number, unless you feel safe in doing so after a period of time knowing them on the net and seeing them on live video. Some men and women too are already in a relationship or even married. They dupe the unsuspecting person into thinking they are single. It is not always possible to ascertain the marital status of anybody you meet on the net. Perhaps the best way to find some solace in the fact your potential partner may be single is to obtain his or her phone number. If you phone and he or she answers at any given time night and day weekends included (land line is preferential) you can determine that what the other party has said is true. That is unless somebody else answers or they hastily try to get you off the line, or tell you that you have the wrong number. The only way to be sure of any person is vide Video conferencing, that way you can see and judge most persons suitability by his or her performance on live video. You can be more certain of a person’s ability to be themselves and you tell by expressions, voice and body language if they are being truthful. If they have a room from which they are chatting from look around the room to see signs of their interests or the presence on another person. If the conversations take place in an Internet café, caution should be applied. Never open your web cam to somebody in an Internet café until they open their web cam. If they do not have a cam think twice before opening your own web cam. |
| David Bare’ is a Freelance Media Correspondent who works for a number of press agencies and documentary makers. He has the reputation of being very open minded and void of inhibitions in obtaining news stories or realistic documentary coverage. He has dressed as a woman to obtain secrets of the harem, as an Arab to infiltrate into societies where the white man is not allowed. He has been disguised in many outfits where the need for a masquerade is practical. He has been naked on many occasions when interviewing naturists, so that they will not feel self-conscious but more approachable, amicable, open and forthcoming in their dealings with him either on film or for written material. |
| This is one of a series of Internet relationships articles by David Bare’. He began this research in 1995. His first editorial on this theme was published in numerous international publications in 1996; subsequently further features on the same subject matter have been published since |
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