Rape is only now getting the press it never had, but I have found many women and men have been abused sexually as children by their relatives and peers for years. Only now they are in their adulthood, and each time they go to have a sexual climax or even, in some cases, just think about having a sexual relation, the memories of these events pop in their minds eye and destroy the moment.
This is where I first used the "Garbage can for garbage thoughts". At that time it was ordained as a small black box, but it worked.
Splitting the mind may sound like either a metaphysical oxymoron or something Steven King does with an ax. But in this scenario of hypnosis, I try to split the face from the act. Sex is good. Rape is bad. The key lies in the distinction.
Taking a subject back to an event, such as a rape, requires a great amount of care. Either use "No fear/no pain" or the "you're watching TV and this is happening on the screen. Tell me about it..." method. I prefer the former as I have had better results.
Go back to the first time. Ask her (or change gender, for sometimes it's him) to tell you what was done all day, and how she felt before this ever happened. Tell her that this is a key, and that you want her to remember how she felt, free of the pain, free of any guilt, free of any knowledge of this kind.
Its happening, but she's not afraid this time. Ask her to tell you everything, and keep notes or turn on a tape machine. Now, you have to begin helping her split the memory.
Ask her to blank out the face, for a moment, and tell you if anything, though uncomfortable, feels good or could feel better perhaps if someone else were here. Have her imagine her current boyfriend or someone she cares about being here instead, and ask how she feels with this other person, whom she loves.
Now, ask her to imagine a clear room in her mind, and a garbage can with a tight fitting lid. Have her walk over and open it, and look inside to see that the bottom of the can is covered with a fine dust of memories not worth having. Ask her if she would like to be free of the guilt and pains that daddy (or whomever the rapist is) put her through. If she answers anything besides YES, tell her you are going to do it anyway, and you can always bring it back if she wants.
Take her back to the beginning. Ask her to go back to where we set the key and feel how good she felt before this happened. Tell her she is going to feel that way again, just as soon as we get these bad memories out.
Ask her to throw all memories of this event into the garbage can. They are worthless garbage and insignificant, and as they settle to the bottom of the can, and barely even dust. Now, as each one is removed, tell her that she is free of each bad memory and she feels even more alive, happy, and free.
Now, she may want to hug someone for this last part. This is one of the reasons I like having a friend with each subject I hypnotise. They are often needed for security. Sometimes, they are needed for even more.
Tell the subject, once the entire event, and any or all subsequent events are removed, to forgive herself for the things that she could not control. Tell her these things are not worth the memories. Tell her that she is no longer having to forget these things. Instead, she will find that she doesn't remember the details, but she knows where they are, and she can go in and sift through them anytime she wants, if she ever wants to remember them again.
Shock Memory Relief and Remembering
Traumatic Therapy is helpful for people who have experienced amnesia due to going through shock. Like rape, a serious accident can cause bad memories. But what is worse is that shock can leave a person with no memory of what happened.
You may want to treat this like a rape scenario, but be very sure to stress "No fear/No pain" all the way through. Have them just relate the incident as if they were doing a news story, and not involved. Then, once finished, tell them that they can now keep these as memories of what happened, if they want, or can put them in a garbage can, or leave them in shock memory.
I had a woman who was in a wheelchair as a patient. She remembered being in a canoe, and then remembered being in a hospital room, paralyzed. She told me that she had been "out" (unconscious) for three days.
She asked me to do hypnosis with her so she could remember what she blacked out. I set the parameters of NO FEAR and NO PAIN so that she could just talk about it but not feel it. She remembered this in the First Person Perspective, which can be dangerous if the patient clicks into the "Oh my God this is happening to me right now..." mental mode (If ever it does, immediately suggest the patient clears their mind and finds themselves somewhere safe). The following is that event:
"I'm paddling in a canoe....I see a sign that says,"DANGER!"....I'm paddling fast but can't stop...I feel myself falling...I feel something hit my back. My feet went numb. I am falling. I am in the river at the bottom...someone is wading out to me...there are people here...they put me in an ambulance...I am in the hospital...they tell me that I'm paralyzed..." Afterward, she told me that she felt better knowing what could not previously remember, because it bothered her so much to not know.