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AFTER LOSING A CHILD, PARENTS GRIEVE IN DIFFERENT WAYS. THERE ARE MANY DIFFFERENT FEELINGS ONE MAY HAVE...SADDNESS, FEAR, ANGER, REGRET, GUILT, DESPAIR, PERSONAL LOSS, DISBELIEF, AND LONLINESS. SOMETIMES THESE FEELINGS ARE SO INTENSE, THE PARENT'S DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT IS HAPPENING. SOME PARENTS HIDE THEIR FEELINGS AND KEEP THEM INSIDE. OTHERS ARE ABLE TO EXPRESS THEIR GREIF AND TALK ABOUT IT OPENLY AND EASILY. THERE IS NO RIGHT WAY TO GRIEVE. IT IS MOST IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER THAT EVERYONE GRIEVES IN DIFFERENT WAYS. HERE ARE A FEW IDEAS I HAVE COMPILED ABOUT GRIEF. THEY ARE NOT PROFESSIONAL OPINIONS OR ADVICE BY ANY MEANS. |
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GRIEF HAS MANY UPS AND DOWNS AND LAST FAR LONGER THAN ANYONE REALIZES. SPOUSES DEAL AND COPE WITH THEIR GRIEF DIFFERENTLY. GUILT IS A NORMAL PART OF GRIEF. MANY OF US MAY THINK WHAT IF I HAD DONE SO AND SO OR IF I HADN'T DONE THIS OR THAT. A PART OF RESOLVING GUILT IS TO EXPRESS THESE FEELINGS AND SORT THEM OUT. YOU MAY EXPERIENCE ANGER. ANGER NEEDS TO BE EXPRESSED ALSO; BUT IN AN ACCEPTABLE MANNER. WHEN LOSING A CHILD YOU MAY GO THROUGH A LOT PHYSICALLY. LOSS OF APPETITE, OVER EATING, SLEEPLESSNESS, UNABLE TO CONCENTRATE, AND LOSS OF ENERGY ARE A FEW PHYSICAL REACTIONS YOUR BODY MAY HAVE. IT IS IMPORTANT AT THIS TIME TO HAVE A BALANCED DIET AND TO GET EXERCISE. IT IS HEALTHY TO CRY. IT REALIEVES BUILT UP TENSION. TRY NOT USE DRUGS OR ALCOHAL. ONLY USE MEDICATION UNDER THE SUPERVISION OF A DOCTOR. |
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WHEN A PARENT LOSES A CHILD, THEY AR FACED WITHMANY DECISIONS. FIRST THEY ARE FACED WITH IF THERE WILL BE A MEMORIAL SERVICE. THERE ALL TYPES OF MEMORIAL SERVICES ONE CAN CHOSE FROM. YOU'LL HAVE TO FACE WHAT TO DO WITH THE CHILDS BELONGINGS. DON'T LET ANYONE RUSH YOU. DO IT LITTLE BY LITTLE. IT WAS A MONTH AFTER I LOST MICHAEL, BEFORE I PACKED ALL HIS THINGS AWAY. I STILL HAVE THEM AND IT'S HARD TO LOOK AT THEM; BUT I BELIEVE THAT ONE DAY THEY WILL BRING ME JOY AGAIN. THE BIRTHDAY AND DEATH OF YOUR CHILD WILL BE A DIFFICULT TIME. PLAN A SPECIAL DAY TO REMEMBER THEM. FIND SOMEWAY TO INCLUDE THEM IN YOUR HOLIDAYS. |
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