On October 6, 2000….Brian and I were at the courthouse, dropping off some paperwork regarding a court matter I had with Moo Cow (I will be including a link for this later) and came across a private process server.  I asked this person, if he knew of any divorce attorney’s that he would recommend.  Well, this man gave us the name of the most wonderful attorney, that I have ever had the pleasure of meeting!  Lawrence D. Gaughan, Attorney at Law….this is just a wonderful man!  He took our case, and didn’t ask us for a retainer, and asked us what we wanted to accomplish.  We explained our problems with the idiot attorney, and the female dog attorney, and the Moo Cow, and the fact that Brian had been denied his visitations for months!  Before we left, he already had the papers typed, and signed off, to send to the idiot attorney, the court and to the female dog attorney!  We told him that our two main priorities were that NUMBER ONE…..Brian wanted divorced! She was refusing to sign, and we wanted him to be rid of this COW!! And NUMBER TWO, Brian wanted to see his children, and to be guaranteed this right!

Well, we were told that the divorce was the easy part (which turned out to be very true) and the visitation would be more difficult (also turned out to be true).  He started that day, and tried to negotiate a divorce with Moo Cow and the female dog, neither of them would agree to anything, so our attorney separated issues. We filed for a Commissioner in Chancery, for contested divorce matters. We had the Commissioner in Chancery hearing in November, which I attended, as I was Brian’s witness. The female dog was also present, as was a junior attorney for our lawyer.  Things went well, and I must say, the female dog, tried very hard to intimidate me, but I continued to look down my nose at her (after all, I’m a person, and she was just a female dog….you all get the gist of this, right?? She’s a B!tch!)  After we received the report from the court reporter, which we had expedited, we sent it to the court for the judge’s clerk to review. We were hoping that it would be done before the New Year, 2001! Well, the New Year came and went. Apparently, our attorney was holding out on the hopes that Moo Cow and the female dog would endorse the final decree.  Well, this never happened.  They did however, agree to a hearing on March 13, 2001 to go over the child support, and visitation schedule.  The final decree, without Moo Cow’s signature went before the court on January 19, 2001…we were there first thing in the morning hoping that the judge would sign it!  We had previously been told that it would be going to the judge that day, and had already made our wedding plans, notified our friends, and bought our wedding attire!  We left, in low spirits, as the judge passed this over to read himself.  We went home and waited. At about 3:00 pm, we were notified by the court, that he had signed the decree!!!! We notified all of our friends, and hotfooted it to the courthouse, for our 4:30 appointment!  Brian and I were married on January 19, 2001!!!  Just 1 ½ hours after his divorce!

Brian had the courtesy to phone Moo Cow the next morning, and let her know that she would be needing to pack an overnight bag for the children, as every visit would now be overnight ones.  She balked at this, and told Brian that he was lying, how could they be divorced, when she hadn’t signed the papers??? They were going to court in March, and would be divorced then. We ended up having to produce the divorce decree, and our wedding certificate to prove it to her, and she VERY reluctantly let Brian take the children. She told him that she would never try to keep the children from him! (she would later prove this to be a very BIG LIE) Prior to this, she had denied all visits by Brian for approximately 5 months, and then when he did get to see him, would limit him to 12 hours at a time, and very few times, did he get to see them for more than 2 days a month. She also had been refusing to return phone calls about visits, and would not answer messages, or email, or IM’s via the internet (we have some saved IM messages, that we will be posting, but I need to edit out her name….so she won’t have a fit) IM MESSAGES NOW EDITED....CLICK HERE FOR LINK

Brian was allowed to visit one day Every Other Week (EOW) for 90 days (on a trial basis, per Moo Cow), then if this went well, he would be allowed an overnight, again on a trial baisis of 90 days.  This was totally unacceptable to Brian, as he was not the reason he had been denied visitation, and denied the chance to foster a good, healthy relationship with his children.  Finally, Moo Cow, and the female dog agreed that Brian would be able to have them EOW(in court in March 2001) Brian was denied all visits, telephone or in person from the last weekend in January 2001, thru March 16, 2001.  This was just Moo Cow’s way at claiming vengance.

When we went to court, in March of 2001, Brian showed up in court with pay stubs, and company policy that showed his income as $58,000.00 per year. The letter head from the company stated that there would not be any overtime allowed, and none paid out.  Even with this proof, Moo Cow, and the female dog argued that Brian was lying, and ended up the judge ruled that Brian indeed made $95,000.00 per year.  Brian then argued that he should be able to watch and care for his children during the day, as he worked midnights. Moo Cow stated that if the judge ruled that, that she would then pay for daycare herself, without asking for re-imbursement from Brian, so long as Brian didn’t get them during the day, she didn’t care!  Well, the judge ruled that they should stay in daycare, and that Brian pay for it…so on top of his Child support, and spousal support She was given $2,800.00 per month, and that doesn’t include a payment of $100.00 per month that Brian was to make for a credit card her parents had.

Now, during the court proceedings, the female dog, insisted upon referring to me by my previous name, and to Moo Cow, as Mrs. Brian! She also, tried to explain that regardless of wether or not, Brian had another biological child, that the child in question should not be factored into the Child support equation, because it didn’t matter, it was not born of wedlock, and the first family comes first.  Basically saying that no child support was to be for our son, because he didn’t come from her! Thank goodness the judge saw thru this, and allowed our son to be included in the equation, but it didn’t matter, because they had based it on his salary of 95K (the numbers above were the final payment amounts)

The weekend following the court date, was Brian’s first visitation since January….and a whole new can of worms was opened!

                         Chapter four....