Form PGRDF/1.03.01, for people met recently with whom a more-than-just-friendly interest has been mutually discovered and disclosed.
Purpose: Form PGRDF/1.03.01 is intended to disclose important relationship information in a humorous way, getting things out into the open where they can be discussed without the longer period of awkwardness associated with the early phases of
Relationship Guessing Game RGG/inf. RGG/inf. has been proven to be non-terminating in some cases.
Disclaimer:
PGRDF/1.03.01 is not a replacement for RGG/inf. It will still be necessary to complete RGG/inf in most cases. PGRDF/1.03.01 is intended as a supplementary disclosure form only, and will
usually only enable skipping to a later and less awkward section of RGG/inf.
Notice: Usage of this form is largely restricted to poly geeks. Most of the issues dealt with herein relate to poly relationships, and most non-geeks experience difficulty filling it in honestly due to
insufficient dread of RGG/inf. Attempts at use by non-poly people will be largely irrelevant; attempts at use by non-geeks, for best results, should be monitored by a geek who knows the filer well.
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Right now I
(x) am
( ) am not
involved with anyone
else.
If so, please indicate numbers. Note, one partner can be included in more than one category. You may attach text explaining your answers if you so choose.
My romantic partners include
(1) legal spouses
( ) lifetime commitments
( ) parents of my children
(2) very close, ongoing, emotional relationships
(3) friends with whom it's okay for me to be sexual
( ) people whom I'm dating
( ) people with whom I can indulge in non-mainstream
(kink or fetish) sexual activities
(1) partners of the opposite sex
( ) partners of my own sex
(1) live-in partners
( ) long-distance partners
( ) partners with veto power over new relationships
( ) partners with veto power over ongoing relationships
( ) partners with whom you will be expected to be
romantically or sexually involved, if you get involved
with me
(1) total partners
- I have
(2) children.
(2) of them live
with me full-time.
- Right
now, I am interested in
(x) friendship
(x)
cuddling/smooching
(x) talking
(includes ordinary emailing)
( ) sexy emails
( ) sex
( ) kinky sex
( ) starting a
short-term relationship
( ) starting a
long-term relationship
- If
things go well, within a few weeks of
starting a relationship I will be
interested in
(x) friendship
(x)
cuddling/smooching
(x) talking
(includes ordinary emailing)
(x) sexy emails
(x) sex
(x) kinky sex
( ) group sex
( ) starting a
short-term relationship
( ) starting a
long-term relationship
- This
relationship won't meet my needs if it
doesn't provide or allow for
(x) friendship
(x)
cuddling/smooching
(x) talking
(includes ordinary emailing)
( ) sexy emails
( ) sex
( ) kinky sex
( ) group sex
( ) starting a
short-term relationship
( ) starting a
long-term relationship
- If
things continue to go well, within a few
years I might want to
( ) move in together
( ) have children
( ) get legally
married
( ) have an open
marriage
( ) purchase a home
( ) earn a degree
( ) have a plural
marriage
- A
long-term relationship would not meet my
needs unless it provides or allows for
( ) moving in
together
( ) having children
( ) getting legally
married
(X) having an open
marriage
( ) purchasing a
home
( ) earning a degree
( ) having a plural
(non-legal) marriage
- I am
( ) so het, it's
boring
(x) pretty much
heterosexual
( ) bi, with strong
het leanings
( ) bisexual (Kinsey
number between e and pi)
( ) bi, with a
stronger attraction for my own sex
( ) pretty much
gay/lesbian
( ) exclusively gay
- My sex
drive is
( ) out of
control/insatiable ... a real problem
( ) unusually
strong, very hard to resist
(a) healthy, ranging
toward high
( ) about average, I
guess
( ) a bit below
average, usually
(b) something I can
keep in check with no problem
( ) so little, I
feel like I'm missing out
(depending on the season and work stress)
- For sex,
latex is
( ) required, at
least in the beginning
( ) allowed
( ) required, in all
but my closest relationships
( ) required,
period, unless trying to conceive
(x) required for
some activities but not others
- I'd
prefer a primary relationship
( ) with only one
person
( ) with several
people, separately
(x) with several
people, all together
- I could
live with a primary relationship
(x) with only one
person
(x) with several
people, separately
( ) with several
people, all together
- I
require my primary SOs' secondary
relationships to be
( ) people well
known to, and close friends with, me
( ) people I know
and who are willing to talk with me
(x) people who
aren't actively hostile to me
(x) people who are
NOT trying to end my relationship
( ) people my SOs'
see only with my approval
( ) people who are
likely to become primary partners
- I prefer
my primary SOs' secondary relationships
to be
( ) people well
known to, and close friends with, me
(x) people I know
and who are willing to talk with me
( ) people who
aren't actively hostile to me
( ) people who are
NOT trying to end my relationship
( ) people my SOs'
see only with my approval
( ) people who are
likely to become primary partners
- I
require my own secondary relationships to
be
( ) people well
known to, and close friends with, my
primaries
(x) people known to
and who are willing to talk with my
primaries
(x) people who
aren't actively hostile to my primaries
(x) people who are
NOT trying to end my primary
relationships
( ) people I see
only with my primary SOs' approval
( ) people who are
likely to become primary partners
- I prefer
my own secondary relationships to be
(x) people well
known to, and close friends with, my
primaries
( ) people known to
and who are willing to talk with my
primaries
( ) people who
aren't actively hostile to my primaries
( ) people who are
NOT trying to end my primary
relationships
( ) people I see
only with my primary SOs' approval
( ) people who are
likely to become primary partners
- I have
about
( ) fewer than 5
(x) 5-10
( ) 10-15
( ) 15-20
( ) more than 20
hours during the
work week that I could spend with a new
relationship, not including time spent
asleep.
- I have
about
( ) fewer than 5
(x) 5-10
( ) 10-15
( ) 15-20
( ) 20-30
( ) 30-40
hours during most
weekends that I could spend with a new
relationship, not including time spent
asleep.
- Logistical
considerations:
( ) I am car-less
( ) I share a car
with someone else
( ) I am pretty
broke right now
(x) I share a home
with someone else
- My phone
number is
( in the phone book
if you are so inclined)
- My email
address is
(emorog@oocities.com
)
- My
religious/spiritual persuasion is
( pantheist )
- Gregariousness:
( ) I am a rabid
party animal without a leash.
( ) I like to go out
and socialize/do stuff, but can be
coaxed into staying home.
( ) I'm kind of
indolent, but fairly easily coaxed out
into
the world.
( ) I prefer small
gatherings of people known to me.
( ) I'm dead center
of the Introversion/Extroversion scale,
or at least I skip rope with the line a
lot.
(x) I'm damn
sociable for a hermit ... sometimes.
Mostly I
prefer to stay home.
( ) You mean there's
a world outside my house? Fancy
that!
- I am
"out" about being poly
( ) to everyone, and
rather vocal about it
(x) to people if it
comes up in conversation
(x) with my friends
(x) with my closest
non-poly friends
(x) with other polys
(x) with my partners
(x) with my
co-workers
( ) with my family
( ) still in the
closet
- PDAs
involving secondary partner(s) are
acceptable
( ) anytime,
anywhere
(x) within the
bounds of good taste
( ) with my primary
partner(s)
( ) around other
polys
( ) never
- PDAs
involving primary partner(s) are
acceptable
(x) anytime,
anywhere
(x) within the
bounds of good taste
( ) with my primary
partner(s)
( ) around other
polys
( ) never
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