recognise the importance of oral and written communication in accounting,
and therefore prefer to hire graduates with effective communication skills.
often say their kids turn into emotional yo-yos once adolescence sets
in. "My friend claims her daughter had PMS for three years until
she finally had her period. Then everything fell into a rhythm and life
was fine," says Sue Hammerton, a nurse who works at Centennial High
School and teaches classes on puberty for Poudre Valley Hospital. Part
of the emotional rollercoaster is caused by hormones, Hammerton says,
but much of it is caused by trying to manage busy, complicated social
lives. "Kids, especially pre-teens, constantly worry about whether
they fit in or not. They think they are at the center of the universe
and everyone is watching them," says Hammerton. " When they
feel insecure, they might throw dirt on their home life, because that
is where they can let it all hang out." That's the time to remember
it's probably not about you. Your teen is going through emotional changes
that are often frightening. "Teens feel isolated. They are no longer
kids and not quite adults. They don't know where to fit in," says
[Dr.] McGinnis. This can make for some chaotic moments. The challenge
for parents, jokes McGinnis, is to "try to maintain your self-esteem
while being totally devalued by your children." He recommends being
deaf during heated moments. In other words, don't be pulled into a fight.
That doesn't mean giving in, but rather saying you'll discuss the situation
at a different time.
her article, "Surviving the Teen Years," Lynn Utzman-Nichols,
a frequent contributor to Fort Collins-Greely-Loveland Parent Magazine,
discusses how parents can cope with the "emotional rollercoaster"
their adolescent children ride through their teen years. While hormones
do contribute to some of the changes parents see, Utzman-Nichols feels
that worries about their place in society are a larger factor in causing
stress for teenagers-stress, she says, that they sometimes relieve by
taking out their anger and fears on their parents. She advises parents
to not take their children's' emotional outbursts personally. Also, parents
should not react to their children's anger right away. Instead, they should
postpone discussing the problem until a calmer moment.