STAGE 2: Victim empathy. You must understand
the harm that you caused to your victims. This is usually shown during
trials and court processes. Denial can come out during this stage.
For example, rationalizing their behavious. This stage, the offender usually
shows denial. Before, accepting the harm you caused your victim, you may
feel physically weak, nausia etc. The pain you feel for victim empathy
should be much greater then your own personal loss!!
STAGE 3: Confusion. Most people in recovery will be confused a lot. Some may be scared(ie, if they are charged), abandoned by peers, depressed. During this stage, counselling helps. For example, one on one discussions with doctors or group therapy. Medication might be prescribed at this stage, for depression, or to minimize abnormal sexual urges. Group therapy will allow you to express and relate your problems with others. Remember, your NOT ALONE out there!!!.
STAGE 4: Working with your problem. Joining
adult organizations and clubs, may help you to feel better about yourself.
Taking yourself out of dangerous situatoins(ie swimming pools etc) is key.
At first, it may be difficult, but studies have constantly shown that if
you take away the source of the problem(children), sexual urges tend to
decline a little. I believe i'm in between stages three and four, as I
am often confused about myself. Its a tough process.
STAGE 5: Starting over. I personally believe
that reaching stage 5 is extremely difficult, but it can be done. At this
stage, you know your devient cycle, dangerous situations. You learn how
to work around those situations, without having devient thoughts. You may
have entered a relationship of some sorts, and are happy.
I want to wish everyone good luck with your personal reovery