WHY DO YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO LIKE YOURSELF?

This has everything to do with self-esteem and self-confidence.

If you do not like yourself, a few bad things can happen to you:

(a) When others do well, you feel inadequate, and you get critical about yourself.

(b) If you see only your own faults, you expect that others will see only your own faults. Therefore, you are always waiting to be rejected. If you don't like yourself, you won't believe anyone else would like you.

(c) You would not want to get closer to other people out of fear that they would reject you when they find out how "terrible" you really are.

(d) Before other people find out more about you and reject you, you reject them first by, among other things, unfairly finding faults with them.

(e) You would treat those people who try to get closer to you with suspicion because:

• there must be something wrong with them for wanting to get closer to someone as "bad" as you.
• these people must be after something that you have.

Some people dislike themselves so much that they cannot stand the thought of being alone by themselves. They constantly need company. The company of others provides a seal of approval that being alone cannot give.

When some of these people are alone by themselves, they have disorder of one kind or another, one of which is called bulimia, also known as binge-eating syndrome.

You have got to realize that in order to like yourself better, you have to learn to enjoy your own company.

With higher self-esteem and self-confidence, you will like yourself better.

I have found that the best way to start liking yourself better is to start listening to yourself.