So far, Andrew has been about as much like his older brother as one would expect, particularly in his nursing habits and off-the-chart weight. People often remark that Andrew will soon be pushing Josiah around, but they didn't see how Josiah had gone from George Foreman lookalike to an average-sized boy. We'll see whether Andrew will continue to be big for his age when he goes to solid food and moves around.

Josiah was not happy with the loss of attention caused by Andrew's arrival, and was particularly ill-behaved when Andrew was breast-feeding (although sometimes he could be funny, pulling up his own shirt to breast-feed one of his stuffed animals). Josiah had enough self-restraint to not actually hit or shove the baby but he would sometimes prance around him on the furniture so that everyone would be nervous. Grandmother Chu ("Paw Paw") was also on hand to help for the first couple of months, but rather than enjoy her attention, he even resented the time she took with Mommy (not realizing how much of Mommy's time was freed up not having to cook, clean and always hold Andrew). One of the memorable episodes of this period was when the family visited Gilbert's office. Josiah had just learned about elevators and called it, and as it was already at the floor it opened immediately and Josiah got in. Gilbert grabbed the baby carrier and started to follow but couldn't get in. He pushed the button and the door opened again after one second (Josiah had not pushed a floor button), with Josiah crying with fear. "You should have left the baby behind", he scolded Daddy. Even months later, Josiah does not want to press the elevator button but probably doesn't know why.

Andrew freqently sits and watches Josiah run around the living room playing with toys, looking at books, or pretending to do construction. Winnie frequently tells Josiah how much "Dai Dai" (little brother) likes his "Gaw Gaw" (older brother). This, along with Andrew's growing up, have made Josiah more tolerant of the intruder into his world. He can often be helpful in reporting to Mommy what Dai Dai's state is (sleeping, slobbering over himself, tipped over on the chair, etc.) or bringing a toy. He has, however, so far reneged on his pre-birth promises to share some of his stuffed animals and has also expropriated the ones given to Andrew as gifts.

Andrew has so far been a rather mild and compliant child. Early on, he was very cranky and wanted to be carried, and was difficult to take on trips because of how frequently and slowly he ate. Now he sleeps better although his "tank" seems to run dry too quickly unless he is sleeping. There have also been a few times where he was sitting in his bouncer seat in a dirty diaper without complaining, much to Winnie's surprise and possibly dismay. Andrew is one guy who doesn't eat to live but rather lives to eat. When anyone approaches him he perks up but particularly smiles when he recognizes Mommy. That usually comforts him but after a minute he gets wiggly in anticipation. The next stage is when he gets worried, as if he thinks he woke up too early for mealtime. Then he may put on what Winnie calls his pathetic look, as if he is hoping for some sympathy for his starvation.

Josiah also frequently neglects to mention when his diaper is loaded, and neither bribery (he can tell you what particular toys have been promised for the past six months), logic, or shame has persuaded him of the value of potty training. On a positive note, he can dress himself and has been much more cooperative with baths and toothbrushing (sometimes he does it himself).

Josiah has been attending a 2 hour activity group twice a week as well as church school on Sundays. Whereas he previously ignored other children and preferred to do something by himself, we now find that he sometimes watches and imitates others, which can be both good and bad. However, he does not remember many children by name, and is much more at ease inventing stories about his fictional "co-workers". Some days we would ask what he did at work and he would tell us whether he drove a truck or other activities, and other times he would just volunteer an episode. At first, they were pretty terrible things, like how one died and another one was in jail. Recently he said one got married. We asked what job this co-worker had and he said, "She is a truck driver."

April 22: Josiah ignoring his brother

May 14: Josiah suspiciously eying his brother

May 17: Josiah tolerating his brother while watching TV