SUMMER'S
Ok, there is a lot I want to vent about so I'll probably just around a lot and I'll probably touch on a lot of the same things Shann did, but please bear with me. And also, this doesn't JUST apply to BSB, but to celebrity in general.
* First off, the privacy thing. Anyone who is a musician or actor or any one who 'chose' to be famous, knew what the consequences were. Every move they make is documented. Every mistake they make is picked apart and shoved in their faces. And no, it's not 'fair'. But as celebrities, they are free game and don't have any privacy. That is never, ever going to change. The only that can change is how the fans take part in that. The media is always going to be nosey. But the fans can back off a little bit. Just a little common courtesy would do wonders. Don't stalk them in their hotels. Don't accost them in public. Just give them some space.
I'm tired of reading peoples reviews of meeting the BSB and for whatever reason (its very VERY rare) one of the guys isn't at his best and some fan says, "AJ was such a jerk to me. I'm not gonna be a fan anymore". That’s pathetic. If your that unbelievably shallow that you'd quit being a 'fan' cause one of them didn't sign your cd, you were never a fan to start with. You have no idea what goes on in their lives or what happened to them 5 minutes before you 'meet' them. They could be sick, or gotten a bad news call from home or just having an out and out bad day. Give them a break.
* Speaking of being mean, leave the girlfriends alone. Yes, by way of marriage/dating they are thrown into the spotlight. And have to suck up and deal with a lot of crap. That does not mean they have to sit back and take fans calling them names and throwing stuff at them. They don't HAVE to take pics with fans. They don't HAVE to give autographs. But 99% of the time they do, cause they are nice people. Give them a break.
* Out of the five guys, Nick is most definitely under the most scrutiny. Therefor whomever he dates is going to get the most scrutiny of any of the GF's. And I think a lot of that has to do with the Mandy/Willa fiasco. Non of us know that happened, so we can't point fingers. But a lot of people are… protective ? of Nick and who he dates. They want to make sure she's not using him and isn't going to hurt him (that's a two way street, but I'll get to that in a sec). And I think when Nick finally finds "Ms Right" and falls madly in love with someone; fans will definitely support him. Until then, his love interests are going to have to deal with the slings and arrows of fans.
* You don't love Nick Carter. Seriously. You can think you do. And that's fine. But you don't. Because you don't KNOW Nick Carter. You know Nick Backstreet Boy. You don't know what his biggest fear is. You don't know how to always make him laugh. You don't know what his biggest personal goal is. You don't love HIM because you don't know HIM.
*Nick is not perfect. He is as screwed up as we all are.
* There are rumors going around the Nick was sleeping around and that's why Mandy/Willa and Tiffany broke up with him. (Personally, I think there were other major factors that lead to the breakups, but that's another post). But that's not what bugs me. What bugs me is that fans are sticking up for his behavior. If he was single, as pathetic as it is, he could do whoever or whatever he wants. But if he has a girlfriend that he admitted to, then I have a problem. I don't give a damn who he is, rockstar or not. If he is my boyfriend, he is mine. Period. Don't condone him acting like a jackass.
(Note: honestly, I don't think he's being unfaithful to his gf's. It's just to bring light to putting them on pedestals.
Okay, first off, I definitely believe this and still wonder why so many freakin' people have such difficulty with it. Private lives are just that, private. And there's no way in hell you're ever gonna convince me that because their jobs are not "normal" and in the public eye, that it's okay to keep them in the glass jar and watch them 24/7 and know their pulse rate… The hell it is!
You get pissed off because someone you saw yourself marrying went off and found themselves someone to share the weight of being famous with. Then you hate them and hold it against the spouses and significant others because they got chosen over you. You, who basically had no chance with them in the first place… As long as we're logical people, it's okay! (Yes, this is sarcasm.)
Now, I don't mind if the "significant others" travel with them. I don't, as long as their job allows them freedom to do the travelling. (i.e. writer, webpage designer, graphic designer, whatever that allows them to do their jobs by fax, phone, and computer.) But if they give up their careers, or drop out of school just to be with them… it's pathetic.
I'm sure each of the guys has a life outside of BSB, so why try to conform to just one area of their lives? No one said relationships were easy. Love ISN'T enough. You have to work at it, and strike up compromises. But you don't give up your life for them. Love isn't like that. It's caring so deeply for them that you WOULD, but them also caring deeply enough about you that they WON'T let you.
Also, recently there've been rumors on a BSB member being a druggie and screwing around on his girlfriends. And the fans blindly accepted it, saying it was okay because "he's twenty-one, a pop star. It's only natural." BS! It's a damn cop-out is what it is. Not letting someone own up to their responsibilities because of hero-worship is pathetic. He's human, they all are. They screw up; they have to face the damn consequences too. It's not right for them to do it and it be okay, yet another guy goes to jail for it, or gets dumped just because they're not "twenty one and a pop star"!