has said in His most glorious book, the
Holy Qur'an:
"Wa inna Allaha rabbee wa rabbukum. Fa' booduhu hadha
siratun mustaqeem."
"Indeed Allah is my Lord and your Lord so serve
Him. That is the straight way." (19:36)
And indeed that is the
straight way for anyone who will listen.
Human beings are funny creatures. We celebrate when times
are good and we cry when things get tough. And in both of those
situations, strangely enough, we forget about what life means, we ore its
lessons and we never realize that we will have to leave it shortly.
Can you imagine how foolish a tender flower in spring
would be if it thought it would live forever. The fall comes upon it even
when it is in its full strength, only to be followed by the cold grip of
winter's relentless death march.
We are now beginning to see the plants shriveling in the
cool fall air, even as only a month ago everything in nature was green,
healthy and vibrant. In a few weeks you're going to see the trees losing
their leaves like gray hairs falling off of one of us!
We see the four seasons pass year after year and the
effect it has on the world around us, but we don't take the lesson that we
ourselves are passing from stage to stage just a surely.
If you have ever held a little baby in your arms, know
that one day, that baby will be an adult who will be sprinkling dust on
your freshly dug grave. If you have ever heard a sweet melody And even
though, in the inevitable turning of the great cycle of life, there will
come others after us, they will not be us and we cannot live on through
them. We are here, in this world, alone with the illusion of company.
We are silent, with the illusion of noise and we are poor
with the illusion of plenty.As Allah states, "Everything that is with you
must vanish." and, "You will come to us naked and alone."
Life is short. Yes, indeed it is. Life is a reality and
an illusion all at once. Only people who lift their eyes from the ground
and take a look around ever recognize it.
When you're poor, all you think about is getting rich.
When you're rich, all you think about is securing your wealth from loss
and finding happiness. You may even begin to realize that a person doesn't
need a lot of money to be happy, although the poor will never believe you.
And many were the wealthy who gave away everything they had to go on the
search for truth and many were the poor who gave up the road to riches for
a far more valuable treasure.
The Blessed Prophet Muhammad said it clearly, "True
wealth doesn't come from having a lot of things. True wealth comes from a
contented mind, a worry-free mind."
Many people lose their minds and go crazy trying to find
out what they should do and how they should live, never realizing the
answer is so simple. Imagine the odd behavior of a man from Ireland who
spent his whole life in India working for the British East India company
just so he could save enough money to retire in his beloved Ireland.
Or another man who spent his whole life roaming the world
to find the truth in the most difficult-to-get-to places, only to find
that his answer was in his own home?
Why should we leave what is right with us when there are
no answers out there anywhere? All the answers to all the questions are
within easy reach. Some people make the "quest for truth" their drug so
they can forget their inability to solve the one question they cannot
answer: "Who am I?"
You hear about the people who travel to the Himalayas to
find the truth or to the Andes mountains or to the desert. Some people
look for the truth on the beaches of the Bahamas but all they get is
sun-burned!
My brothers and sisters, Islam gives us the answer. But we
look everywhere else but within it.
The only way to open our eyes to this fact is to realize
that: Knowledge of Death is the key to either success or failure.
People who are afraid to face the question of their own
death look for anything they can to make them forget the whole issue.
We see all around us people who go to bars and get drunk,
people who take drugs, people who lose themselves in one made-up cultural
trend or another. You know- the people who wear certain kinds of clothes,
listen to a certain kind of music, talk a certain way or whatever. Then
they say, "This is who I am. I'm being me. I'm expressing what's inside of
me."
No, what they're doing is following slavishly another
uniform, another conformity so they can feel a part of something. So they
won't feel alone. "If I dress and act like this particular crowd, I'm
accepted by them. Therefore, I'm not alone." their inner voices say.
What are we afraid of? We try to so fill our daily lives
with activity and noise that we never have to confront that one all
consuming question that has fueled the greatest fear known to man. The
fear of the ultimate failure. Our inability to conquer death. But so few
know it is also the cap on the path of success as well, if only it is
understood properly.
The Muslim is not exempted from this dilemma. We are,
after all, human beings like anyone else.Just because we have Muslim names
doesn't mean that we're specially protected from any fears. If we aren't
careful, we can be afraid of death too. What is the root of this fear we
all can have?
Muslim psychologists in previous centuries developed the
key scale to measure this. They said, "The further a person is away from
Allah, the more he will be troubled, filled with stress and plagued by
worry."
In other words, the further you are away from Allah, the
more mental illness you will experience.
Allah has said, "There are some people who serve Allah as
if they were perched on the edge. When times are good they accept it
calmly. But when some trouble happens they cover their faces in pain. They
lose both this world and the next and it's such a clear loss!" (22:11)
My brothers and sisters, Allah points out to us something
we should all be afraid of. And that is living with a lack of focus. Not
knowing who you are, what you want and what you're here for.
A person who goes through life not knowing these things
is never certain about anything. They really are living only on the
edge.
Not a day goes by without each and every one of us
learning something new. And I believe that one of the greatest lessons in
life is that without direction, there's no point in going forward.
Can you imagine going on a trip with your family to visit
some relatives in a distant city, but no one knows how to get to their
house?
Would you just get in the car and drive down any old road
and hope you get to where you want to go? What if you had a road map but
you kept it in the glovebox and never even consulted it?
If anyone acted that way, not only would they drive in
circles, but they would exhaust themselves in their foolish attempt. What
would you say about such a person or family? You would say they're
nuts!
You would say they're bound to end up somewhere they
don't want to be!So why do we live our lives that way!
Everyday we get up with no idea about what we're getting
up for for! What? I have to go to work or school? Why? So I can make money
to eat and feed my family. Why? Because I have a responsibility to those
around me. Why? Because if I don't take care of them they will die. Why?
Because people need things to live? Why? Because we're not able to survive
if we don't take care of each other.
Hey, I got news for you. You can go to work and school as
much as you want but it won't keep them from dying one day anyway. So all
your working and schooling only will put off the inevitable for a few
years.
So after realizing all that, don't we see that there is
more to our lives than just gathering supplies? If I woke up one day and
was an old man and realized that all I did with my life was grab as much
as I could from this world, then I would feel as if I had wasted my whole
life.
None of us would want to feel that way. So what keeps us
from treading the path that Allah, the Creator of the Universe, has laid
out for us? What prevents us from trying to become better and more
spiritual in our lives? What keeps us living like there is no tomorrow and
acting any old way that we see fit?
Could it be that deep down inside we are a little afraid
of what living right may mean?
Could it be that if we opened up our eyes and raised them
up from the toil of our daily lives that we would see up ahead the last
door that we have to go through, coming closer and closer?
Are we afraid of what's on the other side? Isn't is so
much easier, our fear tells us, to act like a bunch a squirrels, only
looking at the nuts on the ground that we want to hoard?
Yes, we say to ourselves, Live for today and let tomorrow
take care of itself. But we are living all of our today's and tomorrow is
never taken care of.
We are like the man whom Allah says walks around, only
looking at the ground right in front of him, never raising his head to
look upon the beautiful horizon.
Islam teaches us that to be aware of Allah, to live a
life directed towards faith and goodness and that to be a sincere, trying
believer is the best focus to have. Anything else is a waste of time.
Islam teaches that death is not the final door. It is
merely a portal to another realm of existence. We were born into this
world and given the opportunity to become the best that we can be. With
our mind, heart, ability to understand and courage we can become stronger
and more valuable than anything else in the universe.
But with our earthly passions locked within our being, we
could also descend to the level of the worst thing in the universe. To
guide us in our quest, Allah has sent His messengers to the world at
different times and places. Some people listened, others did not.
In the end, Allah sent one final message that He would
never let be lost. That message, known as the Reading, or the Qur'an, is
an ocean of knowledge for anyone who would unlock its depths and cascading
shores.
You see, a Muslim is not a depressed person. We're not
supposed to say, "Well, I accept that I'm going to die so let me sit
around and sit without a smile on my face."
On the contrary, Islam is about realizing the greatest
joy you will ever know. Imagine being freed from all the worries about why
you're alive. Imagine knowing for certain who you are and why you are and
what you must do in this life.
Imagine being directed to goodness and learning to avoid
immoral and self-damaging conduct. Imagine knowing that there are people
in this world that, yes, you can trust. That is Islam.
As one famous Muslim poet once wrote, "I am joyful in the
world because the world is joyful in Him." (Rumi)
Or my favorite Islamic poem goes like this, "What Allah
said to the rose, and caused it to laugh in full blown beauty, he said to
my heart and made it a hundred times more beautiful." (Rumi)
Living a good, Allah-centered life is the most joyful
thing you can ever find. Being freed from fear is the basis of true
happiness and the greatest fear Islam releases you from is the fear of
leaving this life and what it means. In exchange, all we are asked to be
is believers in Allah and morally-oriented people.
Why is it wrong to be just a lousy person who abuses
everyone around them and lives in a greedy,self-centered way?
Once a famous Muslim teacher was walking in a public
garden when he noticed a man sleeping under a tree. When he came closer,
he immediately recognized that that man was a well-known trouble-maker who
used to beat his wife and get into fights with everyone.
The teacher thought for a moment and said, "It's good
that he can't cause any pain to anyone while he's asleep."
Then the thought occurred to the teacher, "If a person is
better sleeping, than awake. Wouldn't it be better if he was dead and not
alive?"
Now most of us are not really that bad, but are we far
enough from that example? Indeed, what a They give a million here a
million there and it's always reported with such great fanfare and noise.
But how many of us realize that for every million they give, they waste
ten times that much on high living and expensive lifestyles! Can you
imagine! If they were really filled with the spirit of helping their
fellow man, they would keep one million and give the rest away!
But they would never do that. If you have a hundred
dollars in your pocket and you gave away ten cents in charity, and walked
all around holding that dime up and made everyone see what you were
giving, would that be an example of a noble spirit? It would be a foolish
sham. And we are fooled everyday and we don't realize it!
My brothers and sisters, anyone who wants to know why
they're here can know. Anyone who wants to live a life worth living can
achieve their goal.
We think that it's hard to live as Muslims, as believers
in Allah, in this time and place but it's really not. What is going on
today that hasn't gone on in the past? You say we don't have a truly
Islamic state anywhere in the world right now? So, the Blessed Prophet
lived for over a decade in the heart of the idol-worshipping stronghold
and managed to not only teach Islam to his family and neighbors, but the
foundation of Islam was laid in the hearts of his followers in an
unbreakable way.
You say there are so many bad influences all around us?
What do we have today that they didn't have in former times. Alcohol,
drugs, nakedness, bad behavior and stupidness are as old as humanity
itself!
You say that it's hard being a Muslim in America or in
the modern world. Well, what is your definition of being a Muslim and why
should "modern" matter at all?
Think about it? Is your definition of Islam involving
following some ethnic culture, maybe the one you grew up with? Well, I
tell you what, if I moved my extended family to China, it would be hard to
keep my relatives and children from becoming just like the Chinese in
language, food preferences, dress and values.
Being a Muslim is not about dressing like they do in
Egypt, Bangladesh or Nigeria. Being a Muslim is not about liking Samosas
and Kabobs. Being a Muslim is not about marrying someone who is the same
color and ethnic group as you. If you try to preserve these things, you
will fail every time. And if you think those things are part of Islam,
then you may very well think that if your kid likes pizza, baseball and
baggy jeans that you have failed to give them Islam.
None of those things have anything to do with being a
Muslim or not. Islam is not in the cultural expression! Islam is in the
heart, behavior and values. It is a lifestyle that can be lived by anyone,
anywhere and for as long as they're alive.
A Muslim living here in America should follow Islamic
guidelines in dress, so baggy jeans and a loose shirt are actually
wonderful- as opposed to tight jeans and tiny shirts! The boys should then
add a kufi, turban or some other kind of hat, preferable without a brim so
it won't interfere with Salat. The sisters add a hijab and there you go!
As far as food, we teach ourselves and our children how
to avoid haram things and then we all relax.
As far as lifestyle, we teach each other the beliefs and
practices of Islam and we follow them.How hard is it to pray five times a
day? Laziness is what gets in the way most of the time for most of us.
Nobody tells you not to pray. Nobody tells you not to be a Muslim.
What about temptations? Sure, there are many temptations
around. How do we avoid them? For starters, why don't we avoid the places
where the temptations are? Avoid that known drug hang-out; stay off that
street where the bad people are; don't go into that neighborhood. And if
the temptations on TV or radio, then limit your exposure to the television
and radio!
What about learning? Every book, video, cassette tape or
whatever that we can imagine are available. If you live in New York here,
all you need to do is go to Atlantic Ave and 4th Ave in Brooklyn and all
the materials you could ever want are there. Find what interests you.Find
what will help you.
What about our interaction with this society? Allah tells
us, "And keep your hearts content with those who call on their lord and
never move your faces from them." Stick with other Muslims whenever
possible! That doesn't mean that you have to be friends with every Muslim,
but try tofind some you would like to be friends with and stick with them.
If you have non-Muslim friends,then you must set the tone of the
relationship, not them. You're purpose with them must be to present a good
example of Islam so that maybe, one day, they might be your Muslim friend
too!d no, don't think in your head that being with Muslims mostly means to
stick with people of your same ethnic group. If anything, most of us have
been doing that for too long! That was our first mistake. Get out in the
Ummah a little and meet Muslims of different backgrounds and colors. Build
a multi-ethnic network of real committed Muslims. Avoid the hypocrites,
and you know who they are, and stick with the good people, and I'm sure we
all know at least some. In this way you are around people who will benefit
you not only in similar interests, but also in Iman.
Don't place unrealistic or self-centered goals on your
children. Don't tell them what they're going to be when they grow up. You
know how so many parents tell their kids that, "You are going to be a
doctor." But the parents don't have the intention of wanting to make their
children a helper of humanity, they're only thinking about the money. "I
want my child to be rich and being a doctor seems to be the correct route
for that."
So we pass on to our children the attitude that: "I need
to be rich and that is the focus of my life." We are pulling the rug out
from under them Islamically with our worldly-oriented expectations.
Let your child be who they want to be. Teach them that
Islam is the most valuable thing to gainin this life and that whatever
career they choose, they will be the best at it as well as the best
Muslim.
And as far as living Islam in the modern world being
difficult...why should that anything to do with Islam and what is modern
anyway? Three hundred years ago they said they were living in modern times
and three hundred years from now they will say they're living in modern
times.
Is Islam against progress? No. Is Islam against computers,
space-ships, telephones or planes? No.
So what is this imaginary problem with Islam and modern
times? Sure, there are Muslims in the world who are so backward that even
running water is amazing to them, but there are still places in America
were people live like that, especially in Appalachia and northern
Louisiana. What does that have to do with anything?
And sure, there are some Muslims with such odd ideas that
we just shake our heads in wonder, such as those who have a hatred of
women and want to make their lives miserable. But we're not them and they
are not us and Islam doesn't teach their kind of garbage ideologies
anyway. Their cultures were backward before Islam and they remained
backward because they never understood Islam even to this day!
But don't get depressed just because of a few misguided
Muslims in the world. In the heart of this, the most technologically
advanced society in the world, almost everyone reads their horoscopes or
calls those 1-900 psychic lines for their "future". Superstition here is
alive and well and women are attacked here in a different way. They are
made into objects for the unrestrained consumption of men so much so that
there is no concept of respect for womanhood here anymore.

