By: kaige

What is slave love? Can it be categorized with your typical western Romeo and Juliet love? Is the love a slave has for her Master the same as the love a wife has for her husband? No, the love of a slave girl is both more complicated and simpler than that of the love deemed acceptable by western culture.

There are many types of love we are familiar with, the kind of love you feel for your family, the romantic love for a significant other. There is the material love, which you have for a really nice car, or a glass of wine after dinner. There are the harder to define types of love, such as the love you have for a pet. Surely you love your pet, but not more than your husband or your family members. It is only logical then that the love in a Gorean relationship have a classification of its own as well.

The love a slave feels for her Master, is not that of a wife for a husband. A wife or a girlfriend loves things about this particular man. She loves him as a husband, as a lover, as a father and an equal. She loves perhaps his eyes, or his sense of humor. When it comes to his flaws, however, she doesn’t love those things about him. His flaws are maybe overlooked, ignored or tolerated as imperfections of what she sees as the perfect companion. This type of love is riddled with if’s, but’s, only’s, and the random unless. It is, in comparison to the love of a slave, a selfish love. Western “romantic” love, as Marcus of Ar names it, revolves around tolerance. He is flawed, he is not perfect to her ideal, she will then either ignore certain aspects she finds displeasing in him or try to change them. Is it any wonder men are reluctant to tell women they love them?

Love in the romantic sense is a shift of power, and in a M/s relationship that shift can degenerate the bond between the two. If the Master admits his love for his slave she then possibly has some control over him. If he allows this shift in power she will attain some form of equality with him. In the novels it was pointed out quite a few times, that if a man fell in love with his slave he had to be on guard for this likely problem. It is because of this that it was important to impress a love slave's slavery upon her more than perhaps another slave, lest she forget she is only a slave, loved or not. A slave yearns for a strong Master, she needs the male domination, if he is romantically smitten with her it would be difficult for him to keep her in absolute slavery.

"It is a beautiful moment when the woman realizes that the man who owns her is her love master, and the man realizes that the girl he bought, looking up at him, tears in her eyes, is his love slave. Then the only danger is that he will weaken. One must be strong with a love slave. If one truly loves her, he will be that strong. The slavery in which a love slave is kept is an unusually deep slavery."

- BEASTS OF GOR, Pg. 236

On the other side of things, the slave would not want to love her Master in simply a romantic westernized sense. She doesn’t seek power over him, she doesn’t want to simply love things about him, she will not want to be his equal. She will want desperately for him to keep her in the strictest bonds of slavery, so that she may love him fully. The love of a slave girl is absolute, she loves him in totality. Why else would slaves want to remain in bondage even if given the chance of freedom? They would oppose their will against his. In no other way could they love their Masters with such completeness than by remaining a slave. The love of a slave does not fit into the definition of romantic love as she is completely helpless to it, and he gives her no choice but to love him to that extent. She does not just accept his flaws, she does not ignore them, or try to warp them into the definition she has of what a man should be. Where a free woman or a wife would turn a blind eye to what she considers flaws or attempt to fix them, a slave sees them, she just does not consider them flaws. To call him flawed would be to say she does not think he fits into her idea of what a man should be. She is a female, and a slave female at that, who is she to define a man? It is much the opposite, she as his slave will revel in all his intricacies, all his quirks both pleasant and unpleasant because it is what makes him who he is, the man who Masters her. She does not love him for how well he fits her desires, or for what she finds pleasing in him. A slave’s love is not focused on what he does for her to make her love him, she loves him simply because he is uncompromisingly himself.

"The love of a slave girl is the deepest and most profound love that any woman can give a man. Love makes a woman a man's slave, and the wholeness of that love requires that she be, in truth, his slave."

- MAGICIANS OF GOR, Pg. 31

Much of Gor is based on love, the love of men and women, of nature, of honesty, of power, of homestones and of honor. The loves embraced in the Gorean philosophy is not so stifled as those deemed acceptable by the general population. The love of a slave girl is one of many pure uncompromising things that makes Gor so attractive. Is it wrong then, to love your slave in a romantic sense? It would be a matter of opinion I imagine. Personally, I think it would be difficult to keep that uncompromising relationship of Master and slave, and still have that romantic westernized love. It would take an uncommonly strong Master and an utterly surrendered slave to accomplish such a relationship, a love Master and love slave. Only the Master and slave can define what form of love they have for each other. The love of a slave girl for that of her Master is something that comes naturally, she cannot fight it, nor would she want to, it is in the end what makes her a kajira.

- kaige
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