NUTTIN TO IT

Every day is a struggle. Each morning the working public arises with the common goals to survive in a world burden by racism, taxes, sexism, and the millions of other "isms" that exist. We want to provide a better life for ourselves and give our children (some of us anyway) a good jump-start for when they plunge into the deep abyss of adulthood. This is the only reason why we get up at o’dark thirty and put up with a job or a boss that we just despise. Call it the ultimate sacrifice for working people who set goals for their lives and want to provide a stable foundation for their children. Of course there are other alternatives that we could consider such as homelessness or staying home with the parents hoping to bank on their life insurance in the event of their death, or the one dollar dream. In order to get anything in life you have to work. Living paycheck to check is a reality for most Americans because saving is out of the question until you get over that "hump". Owning a house or a car can become a reality, but due to taxes you will never really own anything in this world. Unless you have been living under a rock one thing is clear, when you prosper so does our beloved government. How, you may wonder? Well there is your luxury taxes, death taxes (how ridiculous), property taxes, and to make matters worst we get taxed for our income and outcome. Just when you thought enough is enough there is more – Baby Mama Drama!

We live in a society where morals may exist but are not practiced. Relationships end for various reasons and there is a price to pay – not always monetary – when feelings are hurt. Spending years with a person requires a lot of investing that must be divided "equally" (I use that loosely) among the parties involved when a break-up happens. One-night-stands are just as bad due to misinterpretations or leading people on. Just ask the local squirrel on your block and he will tell you that is costs a lot to get that nut on the other side of the street. You got to deal with the on-coming traffic, the neighborhood kids trying to grab your tail, and that sweeping hawk looking at you as dinner. You go through all of this to realize that it is just a nut. Now you got to go back across the street to get home. Time wasted my friend! Here is some time management tips that could help Mr. Squirrel savor his nut and prepare himself for the potential of failure. First of all, tell the individual your intentions. The squirrel knows that he does not want to be hit by a car, he just wants his nut. Leading people on is not a good idea. DMX said it best, "Come on Ma, you know I got a wife. Although that *** tight I’m not going to jeopardize my life." If the other party does not agree with your intentions, then fine, there is no love lost and no waste of unnecessary time and energy, the neighborhood kids will leave the squirrel alone. Lastly, satisfaction is a must and if that fails you have to handle the situation with class. Explain why things cannot work out and that it was not your fault that you got across the street to get your nut first. Maybe, just maybe, there will be some understanding and the hawk will devour you in a more humane fashion. Again, there is a price to pay if you allow me to explain.

Relationship failures can be a success; taking for granted one of the parties involved is not psycho. Again, feelings (something we must steer away from) plays a major role. OK here is the "but" that you were waiting for. When there are children involved, the game gets that much more difficult. It is important that the children are the main concern because they must and will be taken care of. We cannot let our emotional feelings cloud our new objective. But it does and this is a woman’s ultimate payback – hit hard in the pockets, keep his children away from unless he acts right (in that case he might as well stay with you), and deny Mr. Squirrel of any nuts in the neighbor’s yard.

HIT HARD IN THE POCKETS

Again, I reiterate that the children are the number one objective now that the relationship or the in"fuck"uation is over. It is important for men to maintain a job and give what he should without a question – besides they are your kids whether you meant for it to happen or not (one-nighters I am talking to you). You could not convince her to do the ultimate NO NO now you must pay and continue to pay for the rest of your life (sorry, it does not stop at 18 years of age). So fine, you are working and you are paying AND you are spending time with your kids. So what is the problem? The problem is that men have to bust their *** to support their kids (as they should) while the woman has the option to sit on her butt and collect not only his check but whatever government assistance she is eligible for. She doesn’t have to work and still gets to call the shots and deny you visits with your kids because it conflicts with her schedule. You used to bump that Jay-Z song:

"Give me that funk, that sweet that nasty, that gushy stuff"

And now all you hear is:

"Give me that check for rent and nails and other girlie stuff.

Now you just think:

"I wish I never met her at all"

So bad you want to tell her to get a job and get her new man out of the apartment and car that you are so graciously making payments on. Don’t you wish you were that other brother now? He is getting free rent, free rides, and free food all at your expense and at the same time is slowly promoting himself to "Daddy"! OUCH! She allows this because you broke her heart. Now, add this burden to the taxes and "isms" list. In the words of Onyx, BUT BUT BUT WAIT IT GETS WORST!

CHILDREN

Your little one(s) is the only reason why you have not tied this woman up, put her in your trunk, and bury her in the Atlantic Ocean or local lake. This is their mother. And you must and will respect her for that very reason (deal with it). My, that nut does not look so tempting anymore. During the course of all this, you are battling for time with your youngster and competing for Daddy status with Mr. Freeloader.

NEW LOVE

Forget it! If your baby mama is bitter, forget any hopes of a smooth brand new relationship. This is now her new excuse on why you cannot see your kids. Until you can smooth things completely out with the old flame; you are only making matters worst by adding people to the equation. Keep in mind that your new love has to have a lot of patience to deal with your situation. Remember, baby mamas are not to keen of the idea of some other woman doing their child’s hair or reading them a story or fixing their boo boo (you get the picture).

From the beginning, let you intentions be known. Stop beating around the bush! It will save you a lifetime of heartache. If kids are involved, then they are your main focus. Do not let that broad be the reason or your excuse why you are not around. Let them grow up and hate her and love you for going through that drama because of your love for them. Other recommendations are to go live in a monastery or go be a priest (bad idea), but you get the picture. Ladies, give that brother a break that is trying to do his best and stop letting your little heartbreak mess up any remaining possible stability for your kids. Kids need a father and a mother. Fathers and mothers do not necessarily need each other. They only need to be at least cordial to one another.

As for our friend the squirrel, well, he mutated and grew hands to handle his nuts with less headaches and stress.