Saving Us A Lott of Grief
December 16, 2002
By
GREGORY J. RUMMO
YOU'RE
AT A party or in a crowded restaurant with a group of friends.
Caught up in the spirit of the moment you say something
unwise. It might be a flippant comment or a smart-alecky
remark. Maybe you tell an off-color or an ethnic joke that you
think is funny. You know the kind I am talking about. The ones
you only share with close friends or your family—and when no
one else is around to hear you.
Almost everyone laughs. But unfortunately
someone who is not part of your clique overhears and you
suddenly realize your words were spoken at the expense of
another’s feelings. But it’s too late to take them back. The
damage has been done.
If you’ve ever been guilty of this type
of offense join the club. Trent Lott is president and he’s
offering complimentary memberships.
My guess is if we were honest with
ourselves, all of us would qualify.
But you and I are not the Senate Majority
Leader of the party that, for whatever reason, either real or
contrived, must exercise extreme caution when speaking about
race relations in America.
Republicans are cut no slack when it
comes to racially insensitive gaffs. Compounding the problem
is America’s 50:50 split down a politically ideological
center. You and I don’t have 130 million people rooting
against us at the outset.
I am not blaming anyone here other than
Trent Lott. He blew it with a sudden and violent case of
diarrhea of the mouth.
Call it what you like: Open mouth and
insert foot. Engage tongue before brain is in motion. If
you’re like me, then you know the routine. You speak before
thinking. The words seem to flow
effortlessly and then suddenly you notice the reaction on
other people’s faces and…. and… and… oh no… it’s too late.
You didn’t mean to hurt anyone. You just
weren’t thinking.
The book of Proverbs warns: “You are
snared by the words of your mouth. You are taken by the words
of your mouth… Pay attention to [your] words”
Mr. Lott certainly should be aware that
the Bible is full of advice about a man’s words and the power
they have to help or to harm. During his press conference on
Friday afternoon, he spoke of being an active member of his
church. “As a man of faith in a local church here, I read the
Bible all my life. I now will fully understand the Psalm that
says a broken spirit, a contrite and humble heart.”
Mr. Lott could have saved himself from
the pain of a broken spirit and his party from much ongoing
embarrassment and grief had he paid a little more attention to
the New Testament book of James, which warns about the ravages
caused by an out-of-control tongue.
“If anyone among you thinks he is
religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own
heart, this one's religion is useless… Even so the tongue is a
little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest
a little fire kindles! And the tongue is a fire, a world of
iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it
defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of
nature.”
The jury is no longer out on whether Mr. Lott
will survive as the Senate Majority Leader. Who replaces him
is for the politicians to decide. In
the meantime, there’s a lesson here for us all: Keep your
mouth shut.
Or, in the words of Solomon from the Book
of Proverbs, “He who restrains his lips is wise.” n
Gregory J. Rummo is a
syndicated columnist. Read all of his columns on his homepage,
www.GregRummo.com. E-Mail Rummo at GregoryJRummo@aol.com
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