In the name of Allah most gracious most merciful

Assalaamu alaykum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatuhu

Sunan of Abu-DawoodHadith 2138          Narrated byMu'awiyah ibn Haydah

I said: Apostle of Allah, how should we approach our wives and how should we leave them? He replied: Approach your tilth when or how you will, give her (your wife) food when you take food, clothe when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not beat her.

 Sunan of Abu-DawoodHadith 2141         Narrated byAbdullah ibn AbuDhubab

Iyas ibn Abdullah ibn AbuDhubab reported the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) as saying: Do not beat Allah's handmaidens, but when Umar came to the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) and said: Women have become emboldened towards their husbands, he (the Prophet) gave permission to beat them. Then many women came round the family of the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) complaining against their husbands. So the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Many women have gone round Muhammad's family complaining against their husbands. They are not the best among you.

*Note:they became bold unislamically that is why prophet Muhammad pbuh said they were not best .

 Sunan of Abu-DawoodHadith 2142         Narrated byUmar ibn al-Khattab

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife.

*Note:After becoming unIslamically bold ,if women are beaten then man will not be asked as to why he had beaten.

4:34      Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other and because they support them from their means.  Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard.  As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct admonish them (first) (next) refuse to share their beds (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience seek not against them means (of annoyance): for Allah is Most High Great (above you all).

*Note:While beating the man has to be the protector as well.Hence its extremely *LIGHT”beating.

 Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 276      Narrated byAmr ibn al-Ahwas al-Jushami

Amr heard the Prophet (peace be upon him) say in his farewell address on the eve of his Last Pilgrimage, after he had glorified and praised Allah, he cautioned his followers: 'Listen! Treat women kindly; they are like prisoners in your hands. Beyond this you do not owe anything from them. Should they be guilty of flagrant misbehaviour, you may remove them from your beds, and beat them but do not inflict upon them any severe punishment. Then if they obey you, do not have recourse to anything else against them. Listen! You have your rights upon your wives and they have their rights upon you. Your right is that they shall not allow anyone you dislike, to trample your bed and do not permit those whom you dislike to enter your home. Their right is that you should treat them well in the matter of food and clothing.

Transmitted by Tirmidhi.

 Sahih Al-Bukhari HadithHadith 7.132      Narrated byAbdullah bin Zama

The Prophet said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day."

Sahih Muslim HadithHadith 79    Narrated byAbuSa'id al-Khudri

I heard the Messenger of Allah as saying: He who amongst you sees something abominable should modify it with the help of his hand; and if he has not strength enough to do it, then he should do it with his tongue; and if he has not strength enough to do it, (even) then he should (abhor it) from his heart and that is the least of faith.

Allah knows best.