So you've found the perfect Dom/Domme. They say absolutely everything you've dreamed of and act just the way you've read about in the Story of O, or Gor. So they must be OK right? Wrong!
So you've only known he or she a few weeks but in that time you've talked EVERY day and you've never connected with anyone this way before or been so open and you just know they are perfectly safe so you don't need a safe call or to verify any of their information, right? Wrong!
Now you may be reading that and thinking that it just simply doesn't apply to your Dom/Domme and maybe you are right. However, what if you aren't? Real Dominants will want you to feel safe as well as be safe. They will make sure that you have their information as well as a safe call if you are going to meet. They will also make sure that you are meeting in a public place. When you ask for personal information or tell them that you will indeed be using a safe call they will be encouraging and supportive. They will not view this as a threat. They will not take it as a lack of trust on your part.
This is not a game. This is your life and your children's lives if you have them. Inviting a stranger into your home, that you do not know is beyond irresponsible. In my opinion if you have done your homework and still decide to meet someone in a non public place, disregard safe calls and other simple safety measures and end up hurt you got exactly what you deserved. Harsh? Perhaps, but I am sick and tired of hearing whining tales of how a submissive was abused only to find out that she set herself up for it. Yes, there are predators who hide in the guise of a Dominant. It is an awful part of the reality of the world in which we live. However if you know this and you disregard your personal safety you have no one to blame but yourself.
I have the utmost sympathy and anger for those submissives that through no fault of their own are abused, killed, maimed and raped. Even despite the best safety precautions it still sometimes happens and that is a sad fact indeed. That said and known, perhaps you see why I have nothing but contempt for those that ignore their own safety.
All these new people I see lately online, they treat D/s in general as some form of entertainment. The solution to their boredom or dissatisfaction with their vanilla lives or marriages. If you can't be responsible for your life on your own, you won't be responsible for your safety and frankly you have no part in the D/s world I live in. Afterall, if you don't care about your safety why should anyone else?