Well since you are here, you probably have some interest in infertility. You will find that this page is not as much about my own infertility as about friendship. I will tell you though that I an my husband have been dealing with infertility for 15 years now. That is why of course, I decided to write about this subject. I hope you will use this page as a way to bless your family and friends that deal with infertility on a daily basis. I pray also it will show you how much they love you, and want you to understand them.
Infertility and Friendship
from God, never mean to be insensitive. Sometimes though it may be hard
for you to understand the anguish they are feeling when......Your sweet two year old, all in the five minutes you left him, methodically put all the trash you thought you had up out of his reach, in the middle of the living room, tore off his diaper and smeared all the good stuff in it on your kitchen floor and then threw up all over your clean carpet. Of course this also happens to be the time your Mother-in Law (who is a fanatic about housecleaning) is due to stop in any minute! Or when your precious little girl tells, well... everyone, that she has a boo boo on her wee wee and "do you want to see it?" Yes, but for all this, that child is still precious, and to the Couple In Waiting, those life scenes can seem out of reach and oh so heart wrenching. A beautiful song that express's alot of the feelings your friends may be dealing with if you would like to read it, is Thought You'd Be Here - by Wes King
Some Do's and Don'ts
to Say To A Childless Couple.
Please Don't
Say: "This
must be the will of God for your life."-
That may be, but if
you lost a loved one to death, would
you really want someone
to say that to you in your grief?
Please Do Say: "Can I pray with you about this"?
Please Don't
Say: "You
can always adopt a child"- True, and adoption
is a blessing
for alot of people, but for many women they still feel the
need
to bear a child. Consider Proverbs 30:15-16,..."There are three
things that
are never satisfied, four that never say, 'enough'!: the grave,
the
barren womb, land, which is never satisfied
with water, and fire,
which never says, 'Enough!'
Please
Do Say: "I will pray for you fervently and ask the Lord to bless
you and give you the desire of your heart".
Don'ts with Quotesor "You should adopt and then you'd get pregnant." Only one percent of couples who adopt, get pregnant. A Quote: "This always irritated me too . . . I guess because it made me feel like it was 'my fault' I couldn't get pregnant. You know, like if we would start to adopt, we would relax and 'bingo' we'd be doing it right and get pregnant!" "Stress
is causing it"
"I'd
give you mine if I could"
"You
are so lucky not to have kids right now, because
"
God knows what is
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Extremely insensitive things to say to the childless women"So, you have to go through a little treatment, no big deal." "So are you still trying?" "Have a bun in the oven yet?" "When are you going to give me a grand baby?" "Maybe you're not doing it right." "Isn't
she/he cute...
Some Do's' Don'ts
and Quotes, from woman
"At
least it didn't have a heartbeat yet."
"It
was probably nature's way of resolving a deformity"
Do
Say: "I am so sorry that
*Thank you LIW for this special list of Do's, Don'ts and quotes. I really appreciate you sending them to me* |
Me and Mine
I would like to say as a Mother in Waiting that being a childless couple
has
been very difficult for me and my husband, but we know that to have true
happiness (with or without a child) we must.."Be joyful always; pray
continually; give thanks in ALL circumstances, for this is God's will for
you
in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
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