I believe that we need to overhaul what is known as the Familycourt and Fostercare System. I am not saying that we need to get rid of the whole fostercare system but I think that we all need to look at what is happening in our system,there are case of plain out child abuse,whether it be physical, mental, or emotional, but now days the Family courts and Fostercare system are not being used in the way that they were set up to be used.

Instead it is being used to house children for many purpose's such as

TO MAKE MONEY, HURT PARENT'S THAT DON'T CONFORM TO A CASEWORKER'S WHIMS OR POWERTRIPS, OR FOR JUDGE, CASEWORKER OR WHAT IS KNOWN AS THE SYSTEM TO TAKE REVENGE OR PLAY GOD WITH THE LIFE'S OF FAMILIES THAT THEY(THE SYSTEM) DON'T BELIEVE SHOULD HAVE BEEN ALLOWED TO HAVE CHILDREN IN THE FIRST PLACE.

In most case'sthese families are low to low-meium income and most so not own a house or a new car.Alot of these families are single parent families and usually it is a single mother.

I don't want to offend anybody but my family has tried to work within the so called system and with the system for years, dating back to 1978, we thought that after my sister and I turned 18 years old that our FAMILY Would FINALLY be free from the Ingham County,MI court system, well that was what we thought, but we were all wrong. NOW IN THE JUDGE'S OWN WORDS "WE HAVE A SECOND GENERATION OF FOSTERCARE CHILDREN"

I Never knew that it was against the law or that you could loose your children because you ask for help. If you can't ask for help to learn how to deal with a troubled or disabled child, without loosing your children then what is the system for????? And why are laws made if a judge or caseworker is above the law?????? I always thought that the laws were made for all of us not just people without a degree or a Public Office.

But when a judge who was in charge of one case and there were several disagreements in the case between everyone who was involved, and then sat in charge of the case of the same family where the parental rightswere volentarly terminated in 1984,which should have been the end of it,and that judge being in our families life,but once again we were WRONG.

Little did we know at that time,that this judge would indeed be back in our life without any choice of our own,now please don't think that I an tring to put all of the blame back on the system but the biggest part of blame dose belong within the system. Anyhow in 1988 my oldest nwphew Sterling was born, and by 1995,Ingham County,Lansing,MI Court System and Judge Owen's was back in our LIVE'S this time because my sister ask for HELP and was tricked into haveing a"PROTECTIVE SERVICE "case opened up against her and didnt even know it til months later.

Then we were told we could not have a different Judge because Judge Owens was the head Judge and he did not want to change the case to someone else,we told him and the attorney's that we didn't want him on the case because he had been on the case years before,to us that was a conflict of interest,but our request's went unheard,he stayed on the case and we all knew right then that he would take the boys for good no matter what,and that is what happened.Both boys were put into fostercare where Sterling had the same problems,that the Court System had said was not any problems that his mother was and had been making up them,it is called

"MUNCHASEN'S DISORDER"

This is when most commonly a mother makes up symptoms of an illness or even causeing an injury or illness to thier own child to get SYMPATHY for THEMSELF and to make all other's around them feel sorry for them.

Needless to say Sterling was still haveing the same promlems and now was causing more problems,in about the first month he and Quint were moved to several foster home's which was another one of the reasons that they were put into fostercare to start with because thier mom and them had moved 3 times in 2 years,then to top it all off Quint ended up hurt. He had a black eye,fat lip and swelled up nose.Which I might add niether of the boys had physically been injuryed by thier mother,But the courts stillf felt that the boys "MIGHT BE INJURED" If left in the care of thier mother.

When I started this page it was with the intent of letting people know that this kind of thing happens alot more then most people WOULD EVER THINK,BUT MOST OF ALL TO TRY TO HELP PEOPLE AND THAT INCLUDES MYSELF TRY TO FIND A BETTER WAY THEN JUST HAVING ONE JUDGE BE ALLOWED TO MAKE THE FINAL DECISION ON WHETHER A FAMILY SHOULD BE PULLED APART AND MAYBE NEVER REUNITED. WHICH IN MY EYES MEANS NOT KNOWING WHERE YOU CAME FROM OR WHO YOU ARE RELATED TO. NOT KNOWING WHAT IT IS TO BE WITH YOUR BIOLOGICAL FAMILY. NOT KNOW IF YOU HAVE A BROTHER'S OR SISTER'S OR IF YOU HAVE ANY AUNT'S, UNCLE'S, COUSINS. AND IN MOST CAUSE'S NOT EVER KNOWING YOUR GRANDPARENTS.

I DO AGREE THAT WE DO NEED A SYSTEM TO MAKE SURE THAT CHILDREN ARE NOT BEING ABUSED BUT I THINK THAT THIS SYSTEM SHOULD ALSO HAVE THE THOUGHT THAT FAMILIES WERE BORN TOGETHER AND SHOULD ALMOST ALWAYS STAY TOGETHER!!! WE SHOULD DO WHAT EVER IT TAKES TO USE ALL RESOURCE'S AVAILBLE TO US TO TEACH OTHERS HOW TO BE A "PROPER" PARENT IF THAT IS WHAT IT TAKES TO KEEP A FAMILY TOGETHER FOR THE SAKE OF ALL OF OUR CHILDREN AND HELP TO PREVENT OUR FUTURE GENERATION FROM HATING ALL THAT HAVE COME BEFORE THEM.

WHEN THIS SYSTEM WAS PUT INTO PLACE IT WAS TO HELP BUT NOW IT HAS BECOME A SYSTEM THAT HAS LOOKED AT AN AVERAGE FAMILY AND SAID "YOU DON'T FIT WHAT WE THINK IS "PROPER" OR "NORMAL" SO YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO HAVE YOUR CHILDREN WE ARE GOING TO GIVE THEM TO SOMEONE ELSE WHO MAY WANT THEM OR MAY NOT WANT THEM, BUT YOU WILL NOT HAVE THEM, WE ARE TAKING YOUR PARENTAL RIGHTS, HAVE A NICE LIFE".

THIS IS WHAT THE SYSTEM OF LUTHERAN SOCIAL SERVICE'S OF INGHAM COUNTY, LANSING,MICHIGAN'S FAMILY COURT AND JUDGE DONALD S. OWENS HAS DONE TO MY FAMILY FOR NOT ONE BUT TWO GENERATION,AND I KNOW THAT THIS SAME SYSTEM HAS DONE THE SAME TO OTHER FAMILIES AND AS A MATTER OF FACT JUST IN THE LAST COUPLE OF WEEKS THE SAME CASEWORKER WHO WAS IN CHARGE OF THIS CASE WAS SHOT BY ANOTHER MOTHER WHO HAD BEEN PUSHED TO FAR BY THIS SO CALLED "GREAT SYSTEM" THAT INGHAM COUNTY HAS. WELL I AM GOING TO CLOSE FOR NOW BUT I WILL BE ADDING MORE LATER AND ANY COMMENTS THAT I RECEIVE AND FEEL WOULD BE APPROPRATE FOR THIS SUBJECT AND PAGE.

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