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~ Missing Someone ~
A thousand emotions run through my head when I really miss someone. Sometimes, it's just a matter of a phone call or a kiss and a hug that will make me feel better and relieve that love anxiety. Other times it is a yearning to be intimately together, to make love to that one and only person that makes me feel complete. Every single person feels this differently, I'm sure, but that "separation anxiety" exists with most couples, when they're apart. You just miss being with them.
A simple phone call is sometimes all you need to feel secure in the thought that your significant other misses you and is thinking of you. It isn't a matter of what you are talking about, it's the fact that you really enjoy talking to each other and probably at length (cauliflower ear syndrome). Intimacy can take place at many levels and feelings as well as reassurances can just as easily be talked about over the phone. It is a good way to sustain a commitment of love and caring between two people when apart for any period of time (whatever that time may be). Any relationship needs communication to survive and prosper. It's the cornerstone to success as friends and a building block for letting that friendship "catch on fire" when you are just dating or when love is still new and somehow dangerous.
Loving communication can be as simple as physical contact. It isn't necessarily making love when you see each other. That may become a crutch if all you do is make love when you do manage to see each other. It may start to become routine and the premise of the relationship could start to focus on sexual intimacy and nothing else. Some of the things I do include holding hands, cuddling, kissing, gentle hugging, general body touching and caressing. This is comfort through closeness. This level of intimacy is just as important because it shows true affection and caring for the person (including their body). I think that one without the other is incomplete. Sometimes it is far more important to just be near them (especially if they are sick or stressed).
Keeping busy is one of the keys to passing time while missing someone. It may not be easy because your mind will be racing from time to time trying to figure out what the other person is thinking. For me, this is usually a good time to visit friends and family, reading a book or catch up on chores that have been left. All I really want to do is fill some of my time with pleasant simple things that will tie me over until I see that person again. I try not to have any negative thoughts. Bad thoughts have a way of creating anxiety and fear that could drive you crazy, the longer you are away.
Missing a special someone I think is healthy and may even make the heart grow fonder if you can control your hormones. It can be a wonderful way to keep falling in love all over again and it is a good barometer as to how much you care for someone and how much they care for you. If your love can stay strong through thick and thin with periods of time apart, you'll have something very secure and meaningful. They had the right idea when they made up the whole concept of "wedding vows" (they do apply). Strength of character is an important facet of love and missing someone proves your devotion to that love. It is very unselfish and true to the heart
It's another thing to miss someone who has passed-on. This is more difficult because you will never be able to see them again (even though you can swear sometimes they are standing right behind you). I'm not sure I have an answer to this, other than to try and find comfort. My own mother passed away a few years ago and I do miss her from time to time. I have found comfort knowing that she is still with me (in my heart) and that she died with virtually no pain in her sleep. It was a relief to know that she was okay somehow. I do miss her but I am at peace as well. I know that for many people it is not this easy, but take comfort in knowing in that you are not alone. It is part of everyday life just like eating breakfast or doing laundry. How you cope with it, is a matter of your personal strength and perseverance to live on.
To me, missing someone is one of those things in life that makes you whole. It proves you have a heart and are sensitive enough to realize that you are capable of loving someone to the point that you miss them very much. There is much more to your life than just yourself and it is uncomfortable when a loved one is not with you. It never hurts just to say "I miss you".
Pure and simple..
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