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Little Things
Little things are really big things in disguise. I give as many "brownie points" for little things as I would for big things. Why ? Like the old cliché says: "It's the thought that counts". If someone has taken the time and made the effort to do something or buy something, for me, out of the goodness of their heart, without asking, I believe it deserves my heart-felt appreciation.
It makes me feel honored to know that someone has taken the time out of their busy schedule to unselfishly think of me. I'm now much more likely to return the favour. It isn't out of guilt or obligation, it's more like saying thank-you. It really is the best way to honour the value of a friendship with this person. I like to think that I treat all my friends and family with appreciation and respect, exactly the same way they treat me. It's a very simple rule and oddly enough, one of those ten commandments.
Little things don't have to be expensive. I'm not talking an elaborate gold watch or diamond earrings here. This is about little things like a greeting card, a "logo" golf ball for my collection, an invite to dinner, or maybe a gesture to help split a tank of gas after a hectic day of traversing across town sniffing out garage sales.
Dollar value doesn't matter. It's a simple random act of kindness that is being directed at me from another person, without obligation. Someone has actually thought out something nice to do, specifically for me. I doesn't matter what the level of the relationship is I have with them... it still deserves my undivided attention.
Don't expect little things just to happen. Most little things are NOT planned. You have to earn the right to have little things bestowed on you. It isn't something you can buy or inherit from someone. It means dedication and willingness to sacrifice, on your part. You have to show this dedication and sacrifice to the one that you want to receive little things from. It never hurts to do little things first.
If you are fortunate. people will do little things for you every single day of your life. If they're really good at little things, they will try to catch you totally by surprise, every single time. If you're very lucky, that someone special in your life will do this instinctively every single day, because they're thinking about how wonderful you are and can't help themselves. They just want to give you pleasure. Doing little things can be one of the most powerful affirmations of love and commitment that you can bestow on your lover. It's pure and honest and totally unexpected (if you're good at it). Be very careful. You could be in for a bigger surprise later.
If you want to be a really good "little things deliverer", here are a few good suggestions... Keep the concepts simple and focused directly on the person. Don't buy anything for their home, their car, the fridge or their pets. Buy a gift or do something for them, personally. Make it something very unique to them that you know they would enjoy or appreciate, but wouldn't do or buy for themselves. It could be something as simple as a Hershey's kiss on a bed pillow or a neck rub while they're doing dishes..
Flowers can be a very special romantic gift to give to a woman. Don't ruin the intent by doing it too often or getting the same flowers. Randomize when you do it (and I mean totally random) and what kind of flowers you buy. Keep in mind that little things are supposed to be unexpected. Many women will figure out your routine soon enough (if you're not careful) and then the gig is up. She may not appreciate them quite so much. Another good little thing is opening doors and letting a woman enter first. This one you should do instinctively and believe it or not, they really do remember. Don't let any feminist intimidate you into thinking that it's distasteful or demeaning to open a door for them. Most women don't think that way. You do it out of kindness. A neck rub after work is good. A hug from behind while she is in the kitchen (or in the bathroom) will definitely get some attention. They may tell you to get lost (make-up distraction) but they will secretly feel warm and fuzzy for the attempted "pass". How about a little gift box with a set of inexpensive hoop earrings. I'll almost guarantee that any woman with pierced ears would love another set (even if she has two or three now). Just a few ideas. I am not about to give away the "farm". That could be another book !
So how about little things for guys. Well, I have my own opinion on this even if it is biased. I like candles, all shapes and sizes. I like being taken out for an unexpected dinner or brunch. I like the idea of my girlfriend buying a piece of erotic lingerie (on her own initiative) with the intention of something more intimate and being teased about it, with the knowledge that it will be used sometime but not knowing when or where. I like a hot cup of coffee brought to me in bed in the morning. Hugs and kisses are always good, any time, any place. Again, just a few hints. I really could write a book about this!
Little things for children and from children are still the same concept, but on a different scale.
If a child gives me a picture they have drawn at school (with my name scribbled on it),
I will buy them a small bedtime story book. If they draw me an elaborate picture, I will buy them
an elaborate book. If they want me to play video games with them, I will rent them a new game to play.
If we play outside together, I will make them or buy them snacks after we are finished.
If they do a household chore and tell me they are done and ask me to check their work, I will check it.
I will go with them and look at the work that they have pointed out that they have done.
I will say thank-you and pat my hands on their shoulders.
I then ask them if they would help out again sometime if I need their help (they really can do a good job).
This is not rocket science. This is simple give and take. You can do this instinctively with
anyone's children, even if you don't know them. All it takes is about five minutes and real interest.
If you do "little things" for children, you'll have a wonderful little friend
that will show you unlimited affection and kindness, for a long long time.
Little things really DO mean a lot to everyone
and the more you do, the more you'll receive: just don't expect it. Let the surprise of a little
thing be your reward in life for just being a good person....
Pure and simple...
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