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"Amazed"
Lonestar
Every time our eyes meet
I don't know how you do what you do
Every little thing that you do
This feeling inside me
Is almost more than I can take
Baby when you touch me
I can feel how much you love me
And it just blows me away
I've never been this close to anyone or anything
I can hear your thoughts
I can see your dreams
I don't know how you do what you do
I'm so in love with you
It just keeps getting better
I wanna spend the rest of my life
With you by my side
Forever and ever
Every little thing that you do
Baby I'm amazed by you
The smell of your skin
The taste of your kiss
The way you whisper in the dark
Your hair all around me
Baby you surround me
You touch every place in my heart
Oh it feels like the first time every time
I wanna spend the whole night in your eyes
I'm so in love with you
It just keeps getting better
I wanna spend the rest of my life
With you by my side
Forever and ever
Every little thing that you do
Baby I'm amazed by you
I'm so in love with you
It just keeps getting better
I wanna spend the rest of my life
With you by my side
Forever and ever
Every little thing that you do
Oh, every little thing that you do
Baby I'm amazed by you.
TBI.
I have not known Davy long.
Traumatic Brain Injury.
Imagine in ONE moment, ONE experience, You have a life, a family, a job, and interests. You are living as a fully functioning, And then it is gone.
You are changed forever and so is all of that.....
Davys gift to me is sight.
And understanding.
Made me understand YET THERE is NO relief for the TBI surviver.
Oh yes their bodies can be bathed...and are.
And
Oh!
Unpleasant?
Is reading this unpleasant? I wanted Davy to tell me that
What he did do, was offer to let me That it will never be easier for them. I would have run. Make NO mistake.
I will be writing here, as I do learn
I am a nurse.
And those were just words to me until shortly ago.
They mean something now.
I have learned what it is.
Not in a classroom, learning to commit it to memory to take and pass a test. Or on the floor of a hospital, or rehab center learning to remember what drugs will work or what care plan is needed.
I have learned in the most painful way possible what they mean.
My work has not been in this field and while I could anatomically imagine this disorder and try to imagine and think that i did, what it does to a life, I could not have been more wrong.
But I know him well.
We talk.
We laugh.
We argue.
(Which he HATES doing, but piss him off on this subject
and you well learn much.)
I have learned to see this experience THRU his eyes.
And it is astonishing.
your life is different.
COMPLETELY and irrevocably changed
forever.
independent adult and performing tasks and jobs and
roles that you take for granted.
It is what you are and you think
it is what you will be always.
He has made me 'see' the difference between
what my human heart and nurses head THINKS
and what is real for him..or any other TBI survivor.
He has made me understand that the physical problems
WHILE
legion are small compared to
the psychological and emotional battles.
that while the world means well cheering them on
the world gets to go home at night and walk away from this
while the victims of it remain
trapped in it.
That when we, the non TBI world become angry or weary or bitter in the battle
to 'keep' them up, to caretake and to love them,
we can and do
find relief.
Their meals can be made or fed to them...and are.
Their beds can be made..and are.
Their clothes can be laundered.
Their clothes put on them..and are.
Thier medications can be given,
their rooms adjusted.
The heat on or off,
the light bright or dim,
given a computer or web,
or magazines.
They can and are taken to therapy..and are.
And they can be visited........
...........but what they cannot do
.......ever do
........is escape this.
...in the end...when we do..when we are tired
...or give up...when it exhausts us...w healthy strong bodies
...and organized minds....and we walk away --what human will not after this battle??????
.......The TBI survivor is alone.
Is ...amidst a busy world full of people ....alone.
Stripped not only of their past life
..and loves..but of the very ones of us that made up their life before
..so not only alone..but alone without
the ppl they love most.
and the damages and the ravages of the mind with this
disorder very often robs them of the ability to deal
with even those losses..it plays out in any of a hundred ways.
Tears unbidden, anger, bitterness, alienation, despair, despondency, depression.....and fear.
Why make friends of loved ones you will only lose?
Why try? and who is to blame?
Surely NOT God,...then who?
It MUST be them they think.
Now not only have others abandones them,
they abandon themselves in the need to blame
...to understand
...to find answers .......or solutions.
To things IMPOSSIBLE to solve.
I know hearing it and learning it and understanding it was for me.
there was some ' good' in it
....something he can do
and wants to do
...I wanted him to make it easier for me..
EASIER FOR ME???
...and I DONT live with it
...I am not lost in it.
I am a Nurse and I care.
He is my friend and I love him.
But I wanted it easier.
As a nurse, as a human, as a woman, as a mother, as a sister,
as a daughter, as a friend,
I wanted it easier.
(I am not an easy mark; I can and do work hard and have taken some real rough blows in my life. I myself am a study in survival.....and with all that i've survived..with all that i have learned...with all that i can do
...i wanted it easier.)
make it easier by chosing if i wanted
to not listen.
Or choosing to leave if i chose that,
as have many others.
He let me accept how hard it is AND
make an out for myself
IF I wanted that.
What he would NOT do
is sell out TBI.
He made it clear that
it was ME going.
Or not listening or doing whatever I decided to do
or chose to do
but thet he was STILL in it
and would be.
As would be others with
this same disorder.
This is hard, this lifestyle and illness.
Being a friend to someone with it. BUT
he IS my friend and I could not go.
So I listen
...and I learn
...and i UNDERSTAND
more every day.
..and see..
and grow with this because
I am here Davy.
Always.
Traumatic Brain Injury
Consensus
The consensus statement can be found on
The consensus statement addresses the
Traumatic brain injury The report states that traumatic brain injury is
the NIH Web site at
"http://odp.od.nih.gov/consensus/".
The document can also be obtained from
the NIH Consensus Program Information Center,
P.O. Box 2577, Kensington,
MD 20891
Telephone: 888-644-2667.
following key questions:
(1) What is the epidemiology of traumatic brain injury in the United States, and what are its implications for rehabilitation?
(2) What are the consequences of traumatic brain injury in terms of pathophysiology, impairments, functional limitations, disabilities, societal limitations and economic impact?
(3) What is known about mechanisms underlying functional recovery following traumatic brain injury, and what are implications for rehabilitation?
(4) What are the common therapeutic interventions for the cognitive and behavior sequelae of traumatic brain injury, what is their scientific basis, and how effective are they?
(5) What are the common models of comprehensive, coordinated, multidisciplinary rehabilitation for persons with traumatic brain injury, what is their scientific basis, and what is known about their short-term and long-term outcomes?
(6) Based on the answers to the previous questions, what can be recommended regarding rehabilitation practice for persons with traumatic brain injury?
(7) What research is needed to guide the rehabilitation of persons with traumatic brain injury?
is identified in the report as brain injury
from externally inflicted trauma that may result in
significant impairment of a person's
physical,
cognitive
and psychosocial functioning.
a heterogeneous disorder of major public health significance.
An estimated 1.5 to 2 million persons
incur traumatic brain injuries annually.
The causes include vehicular incidents, falls,
acts of violence and sports accidents.
Because of more effective emergency treatment
in recent years, the number of persons who survive
a traumatic brain injury has increased greatly.
Each year, as many as 90,000 persons have a brain injury resulting in long-term and substantial loss of functioning. Traumatic brain injury is
the leading cause of long-term disabililty
among children and young adults.