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Rachel's
Reasonings page
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Gun
control
I resent it totally! The government is treating us all
like children. If I ever was inclined to kill someone my
kitchen cleaver, butcher knife, my car, my baseball bat
are all weapons! I can think of a lot more, but I believe
I have made my point. I agree there are "safety"
rules that should be utilized. I believe parents should
"parent" their children about the risks in
handling dangerous objects as much as teaching them to
cross the streets safely. Education is the key here not
removal! That prescription bottle is even more dangerous
in my opinion, when will they be removing that from our
homes?
Only the honest, respectable, law abiding persons will
register their guns, others will still do what they are
doing now to acquire them. In effect they are removing
guns from the people we trust, and giving the law-breakers
even more strength and power by doing so! It is telling
the lawbreakers they have nothing to fear, the good
people are without arms! I have to wonder what kind of a
government would take this route, spend this kind of
money, go to this extreme to allow the would be thief
feel even safer to break and enter? They have taken the
baby "walker" away. The stairs are still there!
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Predjudice
I did not start out that way, but I think I might be now,
to a certain degree. My conversion here was "the
government" and the laws they have forced on us. My
two neighbors were fighting. The issue was ones cat going
on the other's property, both sides called the police.
The first asked for assistance in straightening out the
matter, they were told they must sort it out themselves.
The other called the police and said "it's because I
am ........(nationality named here)." Two cruisers
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I was in a restaurant, and a very beautiful woman came in
to sit down at a table near me. I am a woman, but I
appreciate beauty in any instance and must admit I did
look a few times. Her face was flawless, perfect and
belonged on the cover of a magazine! She was a natural,
no makeup at all and in my opinion the most beautiful
woman I had ever seen. I was thinking those exact
thoughts while looking at her. I did not mean to make her
uncomfortable, but obviously I did as she called out
loudly "what in the f..... you staring at whitey?"
I felt it acceptable she objected to my looking and was
embarrassed she caught me, I would have apologized, but
her language was very offensive and her reference to my
color was definitely not called for! She lost all her
beauty in my eyes, and I have never forgotten how her
"mouth" made such a difference in the way I saw
her. She was a great influence to me though in the ways I
now handle a distressful situation. I did learn a great
lesson from her. |
There was another instance when a person accused me,
right out of the blue... "you stole our land from us"
... That is pure bull! I have no more influence over the
past and what happened back then than you do! You have
your rights, battle them with the government, don't
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Canada opens its doors to all, no matter what color or
race and not necessarily with my approval. However I do
feel, if you want to collect the rewards (I'll call them
that for lack of a better word) i.e. welfare, legal aid,
ohip, social assistance etc. you should be obligated to
make your own contributions to the Canadian government
just as I or any other Canadian must do.
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Uniforms
Luckily my applications gave me multiple choices in my
places of employment. I chose one because I received the
shift I wanted and they did not require a uniform. I
asked specifically about a uniform before being hired to
be sure there was no room for error. I worked there for
months. Then another girl was hired, and within a few
weeks she put in a request for uniforms. I had a
perfectly acceptable dress code of my own, black slacks,
white blouse and apron, and enough changes to allow a
complete inside out change every day for a week. I was
able to do laundry once a week on my day off. The uniform
decided upon was a dry clean only, dark brown pullover
type top. Two tops were supplied, and we were supposed to
be responsible for our own dry cleaning. I stood my
ground and was given a two weeks notice. The board of
labor said it was legal. That same fall it was decided
that a "turban" was allowed in the Royal
Canadian Mounties! |
Smoking
I worked as a waitress, and was asked by a customer about
my views on the subject. I expressed what I felt at the
time. In a nutshell... I would be very agreeable to the
new non-smoking laws if a person like the non
smoking cook could quit her job in this restaurant
because it was not a healthy environment to work in and
be eligible to draw unemployment, sick, or welfare
benefits until she found another. I agreed that smoking
is a messy habit and in my profession I had the privilege
to clean up after it everyday all day long. I would much
rather clean ashtrays though than pick up someone's
discarded gum!
Just
a random thought here:
Children don't realize how "dirty" a used
chunk of gum is and I as a mother have had occasion to
snatch one of these away from my child before he popped
it into his mouth. Could that dirty chunk of gum my child
found have been a vehicle for the aids virus? If so, the
gum chewer could be just as dangerous and possibly even
more so than the dirty old smokers! |
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Here is one good example of the inconsiderate "holier
than thou" attitudes I have had to deal with. Retired
now, "John" used
to work with my husband. They ran into each other the day
before in a grocery store and chatted for a bit. The next
a.m. he was on the other side of the cash register I work
at with customers lined up behind him and the restaurant
more than half full of those already seated. John held
his money tightly forcing me to stand in from of him
while he said in a voice loud enough for all to hear
"Rachel, I saw Denis yesterday, I know he quit
smoking and I don't think he should be spending his money
buying your cigarettes, you should be ashamed of yourself.....
and John kept holding his money, forcing me to stand
there and be publicly embarrassed until he finished
saying what he had to say. If I had looked after him with
a cigarette hanging from my mouth, or even had a
cigarette close at hand, his scene might have been
justified, but certainly not in this instance!
Most smokers of today began smoking when it was
acceptable and in style! Glamorous movie stars made
smoking even more "in" by using long, fancy
often jewel studded cigarette holders, and posing for
pictures with them. I think there are many smokers out
there who feel the same as I, tired of the habit, it's
messy, I no longer even like it, it is very inconvenient,
but ....it seems as necessary as food and drink to my
system. I do not have the will power to quit on my own so
I find myself once again looking for a smoking area to
commit my crime, knowing I risk one of those holier than
thou creatures invading my space and embarrassing me in
public.
PLEASE: let the next druggie, alcoholic or fat person
stand up and ask me if I don't have the will power to
quit smoking!
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Alcoholism is considered a disease today, and
hospitalization covers the expenses of the "dry out"
clinics. Smoking is just as addictive, why shouldn't it
be treated in the same manner? Smoking patients are
forced to go outside to indulge, but that isn't good
enough, now it must be so many feet away from the
hospital... as sick as they are! Instead, why aren't the
hospitals offering an alternative covered by ohip to
assist the patient with their withdrawal? I know of at
least one doctor who maintains no one should quit cold
turkey, as it can be just as bad for your health as the
habit itself!!! If you will take notice here I have never
complained about the country moving towards a smoke free
environment!!! It is the attitudes of these inconsiderate
people with the holier than thou egos I am objecting to.
If I had a choice today to be an inconsiderate non-smoking
person with an attitude like that or a person like myself
who just tries to fit in somewhere and not step on other
peoples rights while exercising my own.
I would rather be me any day!!!
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Breast
feeding in public
I breast fed my children, but I scheduled my shopping
trips around feedings, or expressed enough for a
supplement bottle. I never did find it necessary to
breast feed in public. I certainly do feel the child
deserves to eat and if caught in public when feeding time
arrives there are certain discreet ways it can be
accomplished. One lady came into the restaurant at a
quiet time. There were only a few men scattered at
different tables. A back table was empty, other tables
available against a wall, but this "lady" chose
to put herself in a center table facing all others to
plop herself out to feed her child. It was obvious she
was more interested in displaying herself and exercising
her "right" than she was in feeding her child.
As a matter of fact the baby objected and refused to
nurse! The men left....
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Women's
Lib
I like being treated like a lady! I love being helped
with my coat, having my chair pulled out, doors opened
for me and all those things that used to be, before women's
lib. I am one woman who will never burn my bra... I need
the support too much! However I do believe in equal pay
for equal work.... it's only right! On the other hand for
example I don't think the mines should have to supply
different shower rooms for men and women
if they used public showers when the woman was hired. She
should expect to use the same toilet, or shower if she
wants to be treated equally! Don't draw lines now!
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Abortions
Never right for me, and never right as a form of birth
control. However I do feel there should be legal abortion
clinics to guarantee good health care and under 3 months
gestation laws. I don't believe a rape should force a
woman to deliver a child if she doesn't want it. I don't
believe an under developed child should be forced to
continue with a pregnancy that could endanger her life.
Take for instance ...highly paid models who only have a
"few" good years to devote to their careers...
should she be raped and on top of that be forced to give
up such a career? That is like rubbing salt into an open
wound. This victim is twice raped in that case. If you
need an abortion for a legitimate reason you should be
able to go to an approved clinic to get it done quickly,
legally and safely.
Penalty
for Rape I believe a rape
in today's society should include a murder charge. should
it result in a pregnancy. First degree murder.....if the
perpetrator knows they are carrying the aids virus.
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Assisted
Suicide
Definitely! If you can legally decide an abortion is an
option to your pregnancy why is it so wrong to decide you
don't want to live your life in extreme pain or totally
paralyzed? You should be able to find help to comfortably
and successfully end your own life if you so choose. I
believe it is cruel to make you live on when your future
holds nothing but pain, suffering and stress for you and
your loved ones. Assisted suicide should be made legal
and easier for those who choose a quality over quantity
life!
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Spanking
your child
I believe a slap on the fingers is in order should you
find your toddler sticking something into an electrical
outlet for instance and your "no, don't touch"
doesn't work! I believe a firm smack on the buttocks is
in order when a child who is old enough to know better is
found playing "chicken" with oncoming traffic!
AND I think the 'strap' should be reinstated in the
school system. The government has made so many laws in
the last 30 years that has interfered with "normal
family life" and then piled laws on top of those to
punish the parents who followed the first set and can no
longer control their children because of it! I think the
government should butt their noses out of the family's
business and let the parents have control of their own
home and children. Of course there are some instances
where a child needs help but I do not believe any child
should be taught in school to call the children's aid on
their parents if they feel threatened. Call the police if
you are "touched" in a way that you don't like....
etc....are etching thoughts in children's minds when they
are much too young to determine a grounding from a threat
or discipline from abuse. Rather than teach an entire
class room that the world is full of monsters and they
must report mom, dad, uncle, aunt, etc. if they yell too
much or touch them in a way they don't like, I am sure a
teacher or health nurse, or principal should be able to
pick out a child who appears to need help and set up
special classes or meetings for them. Then they could
discreetly discover if that child should be watched more
closely. I would much rather see something like that than
teaching whole classes of children how to report their
parents if they are not happy at home. I well remember a
teacher telling my children to go home and tell mommy and
daddy they shouldn't smoke! That was the first time any
of my children talked to me like that, and it was taught
to them by a teacher! |
Please note: My issue here is not the smoking,
it is the teacher teaching the children to talk to their
parents in such a manner!
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Suppressed
memories????
I am at a complete loss of what to subtitle this subject,
but it is a very touchy one with me. I believe the trend
toward this very destructive path was instigated by
psychiatrists in an attempt to better their businesses!
Surely a suppressed memory must be dealt with, but how in
the world could it be enough evidence to cause a third
party to be found guilty in the eyes of the law many,
many years later? I am not talking completely off the
wall here. I have had some horrific things happen to me
very early in life and yes there are memory flashes! They
flash as pieces to a puzzle and we must put them together
to make up our own scenario. I have to wonder how true or
real those memories are when they are brought to the
surface with the assistance of another party!
The
memory is a funny thing! My brother, younger by 2 years....
remembers many things and situations that happened when
we were children! However, I was there but my memories
are not the same as his! He saw the same situation in a
completely different light than I! While I am positive my
own memories are true memories, my brother is just as
convinced his version is the real one. I do not believe
for a second that he is making his version up, but I know
what I remember!
If the above is correct I can only come to one conclusion.
These are not memories per say, they are the pictures we
made with the memory flashes! Each of us have our own
interpretation of a given situation or event in our past.
Neither one of us are making it up, we just learn things
in different ways and what we are actually remembering is
our lesson learned, not the true picture or event in our
past.
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Given this outlook on the subject, how real are those
suppressed memories people are blaming for the situations
they are in today? I am not saying they didn't suffer
being molested (for instance) rather I am wondering how
right and just the laws are when they let crimes
committed so long ago be tried in the court system today
based on memories alone, even with a ratio of two or
three to one. Unless there were pictures taken, and
signed and witnessed documents how much can we trust the
allegations are true? But..... if that kind of evidence
were available the case would have been tried back then!
"Catch 22"..............??????????????
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Catfights.........women
fighting over a man.
I do not believe I have ever experienced the emotion
"jealous" in this instance. I have been married
for more than half my life now and certainly there have
been times a "flirt" has turned her attentions
towards my husband. I see what is going on, but I let him
take care of the situation himself. IF... he didn't
handle it in a way I can be proud of I would wait until
we get home. My anger would be towards him, never the
flirt. I believe the person who feels they must resort to
fighting the "third" party is a very insecure
person. They are telling everyone their "partner"
cannot be trusted, and broadcasting how unsure they are
of keeping their relationship. I look upon the flirt as a
test, on me, on my husband and on the value of our
relationship. There is no feeling of sucess compared to
the one I feel when I hear him telling her with no
interference on my part that he is not interested! In
short... I love him but would rather he left if he wasn't
happy with me, AND GO NOW... while I still have a chance
to make a life for myself. Real love cannot be demanded
and it shouldn't have to be fought for, you earn it and
let it be free to make it's own choices. If it takes a
wrong turn so be it, let it go ...it was not worth it in
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Pass the Buck Generation |
I have long since lost my patience with the "pass
the buck generation" of today.
If they are addicts or alcoholics it is "because
mother made them one while carried in her womb." If
they are murderers or abusers .... there was a history of
violence in their past. If they beat their children it is
because they were beaten as a child. If they are charged
with DIU... it is because their friend didn't take the
keys away, or the bartender sold them too much booze.
Damn it.... IF I got drunk at a party it was because I
drank too much! I would never think my own husband was
responsible for that! My mother never raised a hand to me,
but I spanked my own children.
Todays young adult is taught they come first. If your
parents are cramping your style tell them to "f----
off" A specialist told one young lady exactly that
... I know the individual. In all fairness, I told the
person who was twenty-two years old at the time that it
was her life to live, not her mothers or anyone elses BUT
would never have considered telling her to tell her
mother to"F--- off". What is this world coming
to?
Todays youth takes no responsibility for their actions
yet they are considered old enough to make their own
decisions. When it comes time to pay the piper it is Mom
and Dad who must pull their wallets out. If some horny
young miss decides she wants to screw around at age
eleven and even as young as nine all she has to do is go
to the local health clinic to get some form of birth
control with a promise her parents never have to find out!!!!
Tell me WHO is there to make sure she uses it?
The young unwed mothers of today are encouraged to keep
their child, and given every opportunity to do so. This
is wonderful in the beginning, but I know of too many
young mothers who are abandoning that child when it
starts cramping their style. The child is a misfit in the
newest family life, so who gets their walking papers? The
child does .. Now I have to wonder what will that child
do? Who can she blame for the events in her life?
If I had a problem, of any kind I was taught to "get
over it" hold my head up and not to make the same
mistake again. The rest of my life didn't have to be
screwed if I worked at it. You got what you deserved out
of life and you only worked harder to get it.
Life is a lesson you never complete.
This generation has no faults, no blame, no
responsibility and I hate to think what the next
generation will be taught.
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