Child Abuse, Domestic Violence, Rape,

Abuse and what it is and links to help

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There is so much that I can put in this site...this site will basically cover physical, emotional, molestation, neglect, domestic violence and rape. Children and adults can be affected in so many ways by these forms of abuse. It's sad that this site is here to begin with but, now that it is lets see what we can do to help others...OUR CHILDREN ARE OUR FUTURE!!!!!

What is child abuse? Here I will list several branches of it.

Physical abuse:

Physical abuse is any physical force or action which results, or could result in non-accidental injury to a child: it exceeds that which could be considered reasonable discipline.

Children are beaten, kicked, punched, thrown, choked, smothered, burned, dropped and hit with objects--often in the name of "discipline." Many children die as a result of physical abuse. Parents/caregivers have both the right and the responsibility to discipline their children: they don't have the right to use excessive force.

Sexual Abuse:

Where a child is used in a sexual way to please the abuser.

Non-Touching

be subjected to pornographic materials or forced to watch sexual acts

pose for seductive or sexual photographs

forced to listen to sexual talk, obscene phone calls, intrusive sexual questions

be observed in a sexual manner (voyeurism)

Touching

touch someone or be touched in sexual areas

be kissed and/or fondled in a sexual manner

perform or submit to:

oral sex
vaginal or anal penetration by an object or finger
vaginal or anal intercourse
masturbate or be masturbated by the predator

Emotional Abuse:

Emotional Abuse is a pattern of destructive behavior and/or verbal attacks by an adult on a child's development of self-esteem.
Some examples include...

Rejection
Responding to a child's need for love, affection and support in hurtful and destructive ways.
Examples include:

making fun of a child for being overweight, awkward, shy or afraid of the dark
refusing to accept hugs and loving gestures from the child
embarrassing the child in front of people
saying: "I wish you were never born. I never wanted you."
treating an adolescent like a young child
making unfavourable comparisons
calling a child names such as : "loser," "idiot," "wimp," "useless"
humiliating a child, especially in front of friends
belittling the child's efforts in school
refusing to accept the children for who they are

Terrorization

Causing a child to be terrified or extremely frightened by constant use of threats and/or intimidating behavior.

This type of abuse occurs when parents or caregivers:

bang cupboard doors, slam drawers, or break dishes on purpose in order to frighten the child
attempt to hit the child by throwing objects such as books, dishes, shoes, or toys
lock the child in a dark room or closet or outside at night
threaten to injure the child
kick in doors or smash furniture
beat another family member in the presence of the child

Ignoring
Failing to give any response to or interact with the child at all.
Examples include:

failing to acknowledge a child who is crying and/or injured
constantly telling the child "leave me alone, don't bother me"
failing to notice or recognize anything the child does
focusing all your attention on one child and rarely acknowledging the other

Isolating
Shutting a child away from family members and friends.

This form of abuse includes:

leave a baby alone in its crib for hours

not permitting a child to have any friends

shutting a child away in a room for long periods of time

refusing to let a child participate in any family functions

withdrawing the child from school

constantly making the child eat at a place separate from other family members

Exploiting or Adultifying

Using a child for the adult's advantage and/or profit: giving the child adult responsibilities far greater than children of that age can handle.

This form of abuse includes:

adults leave children home alone or under the care of another young child
adults expect young children/youths to carry out most or all of the household duties usually done by adults
caregivers/parents expect their children to fulfill the adult's needs for comfort and emotional support (role reversal)
parents and caregivers expect children to support the family financially

Substance abuse can be a major factor in emotional abuse by exploiting children. Older childen of addicted parents often assume total responsibility of caring for younger brothers and sisters.

Neglect:

Physical neglect is the failure of caregivers to provide for the child's basic needs: food, clothing, adequate shelter, supervision and medical care, to such an extent that the child's health, development and safety are threatened.



Physical Appearance The neglected child tends to display the following physical appearances: persistent hunger, underweight, or excessively overweight, poor diet. dirtiness, skin diseases, body odor. constant fatigue and listlessness, dark circles under the eyes, poor motor skills. ragged, unclean, ill-fitting clothes (except current styles of dress). dressed inappropriately for the weather.
children who are left alone or with inadequate care or supervision failure to thrive (to grow and to develop in a normal manner). unkempt appearance.

Neglected Child's Behaviors

nervous habits and immature behavior for the child's age.
withdrawn/unassertive/depressed.
demands attention but can be shy or clingy.
falls asleep in school.
young children constantly rocking or banging their head.
Behaviors of the Parent/Caregiver
The Neglected child's parents may exhibit the following behaviors:

lack of parental interest in any of the child's activities in or out of school
abandons child or leaves them with inadequate care
leaves the child unsupervised for long periods
often keeps thew child home from school to "help out" at home
appears unconcerned about the child's welfare

Here is a site that I would highly recommend for you to see also. childabuse.org

That site will give you some information for getting help with counseling, police and reporting your assault. I suggest that you don't keep it a secret. Report it if you can...I know it's hard but, it's the best thing to do.